My husband is a total jerk but for some reason I never end things what should I do?

Question

my husband sleeps on the couch every night, doesn't have a job and barely speaks to me. I am such a strong willed person except when it comes to relationships. I always back down and never to do what I should to end the relationship. wht should I do.

Answer 1

You don't say if he has good reason for any of his actions.

He'd probably be better off without you and you're just sticking around to make him miserable, which is why you don't leave or do anything about it.

Edit: If you can whine and complain about someone online and behind their back, then you can do it to their face. The reason you don't is because you are afraid of losing something by doing so.

Answer 2

It sounds as though you know you already are aware of your weakness, but are lacking in motivation and/or fear of repraisal. It has always been said that communication is key to any relationship. If you feel the relationship has run its course, then you should communicate this to him, including your reasons why, if needed. If this is really what you believe in, then let it be heard. Otherwise, more than likely, you will be extremely unhappy and will continue to be walked on by your husband, and your mental happiness will slowly fade away.

Answer 3

End the relationship. your husband is obviously having an affair and using you as a source of security. strong willed women love a challenge, but you'll have to admit that you need to call it quits.

Answer 4

Go up to him and tell him, "Your a total jerk!! All you do is lie around while I do all the work!! IT'S OVER!!!"

And that's basicly it. You deserve better than that. Once your gone, he's probably gonna come, crawling back. Of course by the time he realizes it, you'll already be happy with someone else!! Good luck!

Answer 5

if u dont know the reason- u should talk to him and find out what is going on, maybe he has some probalems and u dont know about them. if u realy love him u should try to work things out- help him find a job= that would be first, and ask him to sleep with you, if not u sleep with him on the couch :-) do ur best

Answer 6

do not do any thing more as you have told him it is OK for him to be exactly the way he is. Why change a good thing. You have him perfectly trained, its you that needs an attitude adjustment. He will just get upset if you get upset after all this time and any how he knows you won't do any thing anyhow

Answer 7

The trouble is your "comfortable". You have someone and that makes you feel better. I went through the same thing and we broke up. Even though I was worried about not having someone in my life it turned out to be the best thing to do.

Answer 8

Well, what do you think you should do. You should either accept that you're a loser, and you're married to one - and that's that; or, get your self-respect in gear, and strike out on your own.

I can never understand - what's the benefit of being married to a total loser? I would be much better off on my own, personally.

Answer 9

Ask him what his problem is. If this has been going on for a long time i'd say kick him to the curb. Life is too short to be unhappy. Good luck.

p.s. Your husband sounds like my brother, his name isn't Damon is it?

Answer 10

Honey WAKE UP ,,HES USING YOU FOR A PLACE TO SLEEP AND SOMEONE TO FINANCIALLY SUPPORT HIS LAZY ***. you need to get strong and get some confidence or something. Dont you think you can get alot better than him??? Ohhhhh what a loser you got there honey. Get rid of him and dont wait.