My husband of 5 years changed his mind of wanting a family and i am pregnant and haven't told him HELP?

Question

HE CHANGED HIS MIND AFTER SEEING THIS stupid link
http://www.nobeliefs.com/babies.htm

He said that he is so happy that we have not go pregnant yet and said that he would rather die than have a litte **** diaper running around.THAT MADE ME REALLY SAD WHEN HE SAID THAT

I just found out that i am pregnant but don't want to loose my husband because your wife/husband should come first.

But i really want to have a family with him
What should i do ? ... has this ever happened to you?

Answer 1

If he's a real man he will adjust his thinking for his child. He will just have to step up and do what is right. And when he sees his child I can't imagine he won't love it.

Answer 2

DON'T TELL YOUR HUSBAND YET.

JUST TELL HIM YOUR SICK. If he asks

Everyday tell him how sick your feeling.
If he loves you'll he'll be a bit concerned.

Then In about 2 weeks Leave him the Pregnancy test along with a Card.

Tell him your news and let him know how happy you are about it.

At the Same time tell him that since he said he doesn't want kids yet your tooo scared to tell him face to face.

And leave him your friends Cell phone number.

Calm down - that is my first peice of advice.
Secondly - Your Pregnant and He'll Be totally supportive.
3rd- of course he wants a Baby , Why else would he be looking at the Site. And talking about it. I am sure in his strange manly way he is wondering Why you 2 aren't already pregnant.
Because Obviously you aren't using protection.

When your pregnant you are Crazy and many times can't read the signals correctly or your extra sensitive and over react.

THIS IS THAT MOMENT.

Trust me I have had 3 Babies.

1st was a bad episode and my fiance left me. I was 21, and he was a cheater ( not the same circumstances.)
( not my current husband)

2nd was 10 years later, I was Married and scared to say it, ( considering the 1st time and how that ended up?)terrified

My husband was making cracks about how we're Finally living the good life, yada yada yada- We weren't useing birthcontrol

Any how I was hysterically frieghtened, and Crying and was planning for his departure and what my next step would be all that craziness,

( So it was the night I got a Shoe box and Put the test in it no note or any thing )

I said I've got something to tell you and he said what I said look at the chair, and he said what this, I said yeah Open it,

And I was Crying, and Nervous and Shaking.

And He Laughed, and Said are you serious, and I said yeah, he said are you sure and I said yeah.

and then he asked WHY are you crying , and I said are you MAd at me.
and He said no why would I be, and I said Because I though you might be ect..... And he said don't be ridiculious, and I said at the end so what do you think? He said " I was beginning to wonder if something was wrong? I mean its been like a year and a Half and nothings happened"

And I finally was able to relax because I knew that was true.

And It all worked out.

We are not the Lovey dovey couple and never have been.

I have NEver seen my husband cry except 3 times, when his Gma died, and when his 2 sons were born.

- And as far as a spouse being more important

thats a Crock of Shi-t Every Man and Woman Love their Child more than a Spouse. So prepare for stage 2

You and he will be #2 For eachother, but Little Baby Boo Is the King or Queen of the Castle and you'll be happier than ever,

And everything disapears.

My First childs father regrets everymoment, and says he wishes he did things difrently. He always loved his child, he was just a cheater.

And your man is Neither.

Trust him he won't let you down.

Tell him so you can start enjoying parent hood together,

This is where your old life ends and your Family Begins.

Keep us updated.

Meg
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Answer 3

No I cant say that it has he has backed you into a corner. But one thing that you should put into priority is you kids or future kids too and it shouldnt be all love for him and none left over for anyone else. You are talking about a living thing a peice of you a peice of him and its a great miracle. It really is a tragedy but what if you found some better articles. You know what the best thing is baby clothes they are so cute. Anyhow you should tell him and not be scared of his reaction after all it is something that he created and its not like you lied to him about it just so you could get pregnant. You never know he might take it better than you think he will. If not and you loose him then I tell his mom she'll straighten him out. He he just kidding promote positive articles he changed his mind because of a negative article he may change it again. Well good luck!

Answer 4

it is extremely unhappy. i'm happy for you which you're a mom, yet sorry to take heed to he's no longer sharing the happiness of it. thousands and thousands of females attempt to get pregnant daily and would't for various motives. For those human beings that do, it is not basically a miracle, it somewhat is a blessing. it is the happiest element on your existence. regrettably, on your issue, you are able to desire to return to a determination what's extra significant. through fact your husband has desperate that he no longer needs a kinfolk anymore. once you have been having intercourse before, i'm constructive having a kinfolk replaced into the plan. So, it somewhat is bigoted to you. So, now you are able to desire to return to a determination. Your husband or your unborn baby. And basically you additionally could make that determination. which might you quite have?! think of long and stressful approximately this. stable success to you.

Answer 5

I knew a couple that swore they were never going to have kids. Neither of them wanted kids. After 10 years of marriage, he was 39 yrs old and she was 35 yrs old, they decided he should get a vasectomy -- so he did. Two weeks later she found out she was pregnant. She cried for a month. They both got used to the idea and of course the pregnancy was uneventfully and they ended up with a healthy, beautiful little girl. If you ask them now what they think, they will tell you, "If we knew how wonderful having a child could be, we would have had them sooner and had more than one." They cherish their daughter so much. God made you pregnant for a reason. Your child will have a purpose here on this earth. Tell your husband you are pregnant and tell him you want the baby. You might be totally surprised by his reaction. And trust me on this, if he doesn't stick around, he is not a real man.

Answer 6

Well you are going to have to tell him sooner or later and I think sooners better. I would start out by saying something like "I know that lately you've been having second thoughts about parenthood but as it turns out honey I just found out I'm pregnant" He may be upset at first but he I think he will come around as time goes. My concern would be why a mature man who wanted children would change his mind after reading a rude tounge in cheek blurb? I tend to think that there is more to it then that. Its true children can be difficult but it really is worth it in the long run. I would tell him asap as for a husband coming first, I agree to a point but a child from your body should come first as well. I adore my husband but if he ever tried to make me choose between him and a child he'd lose becouse the fact that he asked me to choose would show me he didn't love me enough.Good Luck

Answer 7

Tell him. Just tell him and see how he reacts. It could be that a lot of his reaction will depend on how you present this news. I say congratulations to you both! If you present it in a positive manner and he is a jerk about it then you really need to think about who YOU are and what YOU want. Did you guys discuss children before you got pregnant? He may just surprise you and be delighted that you are pregnant with his child. But you have to tell him - don't you? If you can't tell him, then if I was you I would have to take a serious hard look at the dynamic of the relationship. It is his child. He has a right to know. Like I said, he may surprise you.

Answer 8

Tell him that you're pregnant, if his mind changed so suddenly one way, then it will more than likely change back the other way just as easily with the news! And after that, if I were you I would track down whoever wrote that little, blurb shall we call it, and give him a swift kick in the genetalia! I've never had someone's opinion infuriate me so much! Wow, I'm very sorry that your husband came across that website.. and I hope all fares for you and your family. :)

Answer 9

If he said this what kind of father is he gonna be? Husband can't come first now the baby has to. And hubby needs to grow up it sounds like to me and he needs to put daddy shoes on. You should tell him but he might leave you. And if he does he aint much of a man. Kids are easy and fun to make but hard to take care of. Is he scared of seattling down all the way cause kids will do that to ya. Good luck but you need to tell him hun.

Answer 10

You tell him this.... He didn't back out when he was making it, and he sure n' the hell ain't going to back out now! You got to put your foot down... Let him know that your'e not taking the crap and then threaten to take him to court if he doesn't corporate. Men get scared easily by a woman. Don't let him fool you! And, if that doesn't do it, try this I bet this will work... all you have to do is lose your mind 1 time on him. I mean go crazy on him with tears in your eyes then tell him to get out of your sight. The next day he'll give in.

Answer 11

Well I think you should keep your baby because if that a real husband he would stay with you threw the thick and the then. And if that causes a argument between you'll you need to leave him because he is not a good man and a good man always take care of their responsibly.