He say he love me, I kind of believe him. He is like the oldest guy I every dated. He really the only man I have date in my life for that period of time before. I ask myself do he really care about me the way I care about him. I am really new a relationship. While I was dating him, I was respectful, honest, and faithful. But sometimes I think he wasn't truthful. I am trying to see if I really have a future with him, I really care about him more than he know. I just don't wanna be looking crazy at the end. I need help!
2006-11-08 10:43:16 · 9 answers · asked by angle2005star 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why is age discrimination so acceptable? If someone this was an interracial question and a white girl dating a black guy anyone who was against it would be burned at the stake!! But because one is young and the other old people are constantly putting it down and saying its wrong. Get real people!! Its just 2 humans who like each other. nothing else matters. Go with your instinct, why do you think he is not serious? If all else fails, just talk to him about it. Be honest and don't play games. Good Luck
2006-11-10 14:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all think about this...he's 41, your 23 now when you are 41 he'll be 59...does'nt seem too much of a age gap there but you have to think about if you really got serious and maybe marriage is in the future, would you really want to be with this person when he's old and your still young, and possibly have children with him? Sometimes you have to keep some of your feelings inside because you do not want to appear needy, not crazy, if he truly cares about you, you will know, and then you can go from there. Take your time , you are still very young, maybe you will find out that there are more guys around you age that you would rather be doing things with, than trying to keep this older man interested in younger activities. Good luck to you.
2006-11-08 10:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent to with feel about this...He's 41, your 23 now when you are 41 he'll be fifty nine...Does'nt look an excessive amount of of a age gap there however you ought to think about should you happen to instead purchased severe and possibly marriage is ultimately, would you peculiarly wish to be with this man or woman when he is ancient and your nonetheless younger, and probably have kids with him? Generally you ought to preserve a few of your feelings within for the reason that you do not want to show up needy, not loopy, if he real cares about you, you're going to have an understanding of, after which you can go from there. Take your time , you maybe still very more youthful, probably you are going to notice that there are extra guys round you age that you'd then again be doing matters with, than seeking to continue this older man involved about younger routine. Simply correct success to you.
2016-08-09 22:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by domina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in exactly the same situation before, a few times, when I was younger. Looking back at the relationships now, I see that most of them would never have worked out for the long-term. Often, men are going through a mid-life crisis at that age and need a much younger woman to make them feel vital and attractive. Also, you should trust your gut instinct on his lack of truthfulness. There could be a hidden marriage there. Some men are in it just for the sex, as well. They will play with the emotions of a young woman to secure a sexual relationship. Overall, I'd say these are things to consider, but they are not always the case. I believe age differences don't matter necessarily, but do pay attention, trust your instincts, and don't let him use you. Good luck, and have fun!
2006-11-08 10:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by kimmunism 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that when you are his age, he will be almost 60. It might not be a big deal now, but he's a lot closer than you are to wanting to slow down a lot. Plus mid life crises. You won't be able to spend your entire life with him because when your 70, he'll be 89, if he lives to be that old. But hey, if you're one of those spur of the moment type people and don't think about the future, then take it a step farther and confront him with these issues, no one else can help you on this one.
2006-11-08 11:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41 years young, and I'm a little concerned about the age difference here.
2006-11-08 11:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not worng to date a 41 years old man but you got to be suare that is right one for you he is turefulf to you if is not dont go out with h im cause here can hurt very made
2006-11-08 10:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by DIANE E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHAT DOSE YOUR HEART TELL YOU DO YOU REALY LOVE HIM? IF YOU DO AND IF BOTH OF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER BOTH OF YOU GUYS WOULD NEED TIME TO THINK WERE IS THE NEXT STEP YOU GUYS WANNA TAKE YOUR REALATION SHIP
BBBUUUUTTTT IT CAN ALSO BE THAT HE IS JUST WITH YOU CUZ YOU ARE YOUNG AND MOST OLD GUYS WANT PUSSSSSYYY IF YOU SEE THAT HE IS NOT TAKING YOU SERIOUSLY GO STRAIGHT AHEAD AND DUMP HIS OLD ASSSSS GOD BLESS YOU
2006-11-08 10:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too old for you. He is old enough to be your father..You have such a diffrence in age that I think you need to find someone your own age
2006-11-08 10:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋