How do you 'let go' of your past?

Question

if your past is filled with mistakes, missed oppurtunities, disasters and regrets? Do you take full responsibility, i'm in my early 20's now and i look back and think arrrggghhh!

Answer 1

FORGET ABOUT IT, MOVE ON , I'M 61 AND HAVE HAD TO DO A LOT OF THAT

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well, you are farther advanced than the average person if you are questioning this in your early 20's. The first thing is to acknowledge and own the mistake, think about what you could have done better, and then move on. Just don't make the same mistake twice. Discernment and understanding come from connecting two situations and learning from the first.

Answer 4

Now that's a good one.You are the luckiest around.First is that you know about your past and the effect it has on you.its like taking notes and being able to go back and study for a major exam by studying the notes.No notes and you are in trouble.the best thing about a negative past is that it gives you an opportunity to shift gears and take the other path at the crossroads.You had to have the disasters and mistakes to get to the new world which awaits you .its all up to you now to take it and run like hell with this 'Brave New World' Second chance is the best chance!!!

Answer 5

I don't think you have to take responsibility for all of it. I don't know what your experiences have been, but sometimes people have shitty upbringings or become socially excluded from society through no fault of their own. You have to look at the whole picture of a persons life. I think that people should take responsibility for their behaviour but that is something that comes with maturity and gaining an insight into ones problems and issues. Also bear in mind not many people go through life without regrets and missed opportunities etc. Sometimes it is just these things that help us to learn and make changes. You have to have the ups and the downs.

Answer 6

I think a huge factor of letting go of your past is - coming to terms with your past. Life isn't always fine and dandy, there are challenges that we are all going to face throughout our lifetime. The way people deal with things are always different however, and that is what doesn't allow us to 'let go' of alot of things that continue to bother us.

You need to come to terms with the mistakes that you made, realise why they happened, how they happened and who you are because they happened. Someone once told me that a mistake isn't a mistake unless you learn from it...and as such we learn from everything that happens to us in our lives. Some are more simple than others, but it is up to us to figure out whether or not we want to hold on to all the wrong things that have happened to us.

Think about it this way, you are 20, just imagine how many things you would not be able to let go of by the time you are 30 if you continue to torture yourself with all these past experiences? That would be a hell of alot of baggage to carry don't ya think?

First step, realise what it is that is bothering you, and why is it that you can't let go. Second step, realising how you learnt from t these past experiences. Third step, figuring out how you are going to take what you've learnt and use it to the best of your ability in order to not make these things happen again. And, finally, set a goal for yourself something to achieve, something personal, it could be simple or a life long dream...but most of all make sure the things that you hold on to, are the things that are positive for you and your life and where you are at the moment.

Good Luck, and I hope this helps.

Answer 7

You realize that every moment you waste hanging on to the past
is a moment of something good lost! Make every second of your
new life, a life without recriminations & regrets, count. You can't
take responsibility for something that is gone. Say ok, I did it and I regret it, now I will go ahead the best I can. Did you ever hear the
expression, beating a dead horse? Just imagine doing that. It would be ludicrous to beat a dead horse. So don't beat your past.

Answer 8

There's an alternative therapy called EFT for Emotional Freedom Techniques which uses tapping on energy meridians to help dispel all that resentment, embarrassment, anger, whatever, lurking in your psyche and dragging you down.

The treatment side lines the bad emotions and memories to a point where you can view them dispassionately rather than dwell on them.

Sounds like quackery but seen it help psychosomatic illness developed as a result of unresolved emotional issues.

Answer 9

when i look back on my mistakes, i think that atleast i learned something from them. when i look back on missed opportunites i think about how maybe they were missed for a reason. no matter what, if i do have regrets or disasters, just rememeber that they're a part of life, and they're going to happen. those particular events are part of the past now.....but there will be more, because its part of life. just try to learn from your mistakes and disasters, and live life to the fullest so you have no regrets or missed opportunites.

Answer 10

Do what I do.. look at a mistake and think.. ok made a mistake.. next time will either be better or won't do that again. Move on.. till next one.. then once again.. don't beat your self up.. think next time will either be better or won't do that..

Look back.. think.. had that experience. Some was good some was bad.. least you had the experience and it's made you the nice person you are today............. best wishes

Answer 11

My advice to you would be to never look make in your wrongdoings instead learn form them. Don't regret anything that you have done in the past just know how to handle the same situation in a better way.