Help me please!! I'm so desperate you don't even understand!!! I have this friend that I held some secrets of her's and we got into a disagreement.. and I told her mother her secrets. It's been two weeks since she's talked to me like we used to!!! She's like my second best friend!! She said she won't ever forgive me... but there's got to be something I can do or say t oamke her forgive me and one of you know this!! Help me please!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!! I'm on my knees begging you to please please help me!!!
2006-11-08 10:31:05 · 25 answers · asked by Tammi G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to be on your knees begging your friend's forgiveness. She put her trust in you and you betrayed that trust. She may never forgive you. Its a chance you are going to have to take. You should have thought about this before you went running to tell her mother
2006-11-08 10:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were these secrets that you told to help her or because you were mad at her??? telling secrets such as if your friend had an eating disorder or was using drugs or sleeping around ect that could harm her thoes i can see maybe her forgiving you for but if you told a secret that she just trusted you with then im not sure if she should forgive you... as a friend she trusted you and you let her down... when i was in 7th grade i confided something to my mom about a friend and she told her parent and so on and from that day on my schooldays were ruined because my mom didnt keep my secret i was labled as the nark ect and i went to a very very small school so no one liked me after that and to this day and i am 38 now i still have not completly forgiven my mom.. and i have a daughter now who confides in me all the time and i have never told anything that i know......back to your thing a best friend should be able to tell anything without it changing the way you feel about her or without you telling anyone even if the two of you have a huge fight and never speak again... i am srry i know that this is not the answer you were wanting to here
2006-11-08 18:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it's actually up to her not you. Maybe an eye for and eye even though two wrongs don't make a right. Plus how is she to trust you if when you have an disagreement you go telling secrets. Looks like you may need to find another friend and give her some space.
2006-11-08 18:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~InEvItAbLe~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might forgive you - but that will be up to her - and it will be ABOUT her too. You really don't have anything to do with her forgiveness. I think what you really want is her trust and friendship. It will probably take a long time before she starts to trust you again. Trust is something that is earned. All you can do is tell her you're sorry (which I think you probably already have) - and that you know you made a mistake - and then go down the long road to earn her trust and friendship back. Good luck!
2006-11-08 18:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get on your knees and beg us for help you need to get on your knees and beg for her forgiveness. Get her a sweet and breath-taking gift and personally take it to her at her house and tell her how sorry you are and that you were not thinking rationally and how important you friendship was. Talk about memories from the past that will put a smile on her face or make her realize how important your friendship is and also tell her that you dont expect her forgiveness but that you'd really appreciate it if she did forgive you anyways. Hope I helped!
2006-11-08 18:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by smiley_gal2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all u betrayed her so you have alot of work to try and get this relationship back to where it was. First u need to tell her u are sorry and promise her u will never do it again and u might want to tell her u were wrong and why u told her mom. I mean really why would u do that unless u thought she was in danger from someone or herself...There is no magic pill that will save this relationship but maybe time.
2006-11-08 18:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you understand forgiveness perhaps you will be ready..The reason being is that you hate yorself and Can not forgive yourself...Learn to forgive yourself and then you will know what forgiveness is..If she does not forgive you move on and take this as a precious gift, a learning about trust and take this knowledge into your next relationship but also be willing to forgive someone who betrays your trust from this point on...If someone betrays your trust look not at their face but see YOU
2006-11-08 18:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by ray b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, at least you've still got your first best friend. If it was the other way around, and she told your mom all of your dirty little secrets, and you couldn't trust her anymore, what could she do to make you forgive her? I'd be pretty ticked at you too.
2006-11-08 18:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs time, and I don't mean 2 weeks. You betray her trust and your friendship in the worse way possible. I can only hope it was due to concern for her life and health, if this is so she in time she will understand and forgive you; if not you lost her friendship forever and it's your fault not her's.
2006-11-08 18:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by tesorotx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up. You told her mother. It's going to take time for her to trust you again... if she ever trusts you again. She's probably thinking that every time you two get into an argument, you're going to broadcast her business to everyone...
Tell her you're really sorry and it was wrong for you to do that and then give her time to forgive you.
2006-11-08 18:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by JamaicanGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋