I feel like I'm losing my mind...?

Question

I'm really really sad right now. I can't describe it any better than that. I feel utterly alone and hopeless, and exhausted from life. When I get like this I feel like I don't care, don't want to try, and frankly just want to go to sleep. I wish I could say more, but I don't even have the motivation to try and better articulate how I am feeling. When I get like this, I make very impulsive decisions to feel connected to another person, even if it's a negative connection. (write outrageous emails, or, write questions on here, make crazy phone calls, go out and get trashed and talk to strangers, call old boyfriends, etc...)

I should mention that I live in a new city and don't know very many people yet. It's hard to meet people unless you are trying to connect romantically or sexually, because it seems that is all anyone is interested in. Unfortunately when I go out and drink that is all I am interested in as well. All of my colleagues and peers are older than me, and in different phases of life. I am not seeing a therapist because I simply do not have the time- I have looked at my sched from every angle because I really want to go back to therapy but there is simply no way. Whenever I am availble the center is closed and I cannot afford to go anywhere except the school counseling center. :(

Answer 1

connection is probably good - call some close friends, ask if they can come over .. .

if you're not seeing a counselor, it's a good idea to start .. .also maybe see a psychiatrist to rule out any other medical conditions.

It sounds like depression.

It is possible to feel much better.

Answer 2

Whoa. . Wait a minute before you right yourself off to the loony bin. Or to a doctor who will in a heart beat put you on medications. Sure you may be depressed. Clinically? Hmm. I am not so sure about that. It is totally reasonable that with all the "new" changes and not having a solid anchor there to support you. Your fwailing on your own. Take good care of yourself and try and do things of your interest. Gym, dance class, hike, take a singing class, bookstore. If possible, plan a trip. Invite an old friend from home to come visit. Get out of the house when the sun is out. Look for some beauty in your area. Extend yourself to make friends. With the coffee gal, or the receptionist at the salon. Etc. Write down things you like to do or have wanted to do and start getting out and living your life more fully. Stay away from the bars for a while. Even take a break form the computer for a while. Oh yeh. And stop thinking and feeling so deeply for a while. Take a break. Go have fun. OK. Now Go!

Answer 3

It sounds like you need to make time to at least talk to a doctor. What you're describing sounds a LOT like depression... which can be treated really easily treated... but only by a doctor.

What about finding a way to get out and meet people. Believe me... I know how hard that is... I'm in the same boat... but what about volunteer work? That's a great way to meet people. Join some groups/clubs at school.

It's really hard to not have someone to talk to... moving to a new city doesn't help any I'm sure. I really think you're best bet is to see a doctor and find out if what you're experiencing is depression. If it is... anything else you try to do isn't going to help. If it's not... well, then at least you know it's not and you can try to make things better. Good luck. Take care of yourself. :)

Answer 4

Honey, you sound like you might be depressed. Clinical depression can make you feel this way and one key sign is the inability to do things for yourself. Get yourself to a therapist or even your regular doctor to start talking about it. You can and will feel better and you might even start feeling better right away by just addressing this with a professional. Both doctors and therapists see this a lot so they will know what to do. Put yourself in their hands. They can even help you with your impulsive decisions, if they bother you. It's probably all related. It's just one phone call or walk into an urgent care or local mental health canter and they will help you. You will feel better. Promise.

Answer 5

Depression to put it simply! You might be shocked to know how many of us feel like you.
Once or twice a month I may only sleep one or two hours a night.You have to make a definite effort to find out what your personal issue is.You may be going through a work related crisis,man or woman issue.You may be under pressure to have a child or feel a need for more finances to get from day to day.You may also need to surrender to someone who has been telling you the truth about something to which you are in denial.Think deep and get out of your depression!!!!!

Answer 6

awww :( I guess there isn't really something to answer here...but I will say I know exactly how you feel. It sucks a lot, but it passes, just like everything else. I pray God gives you peace and joy, and lifts your spirit. Feel better babe!

Answer 7

Hey,

I feel the same way sometimes. I'm sure you are thinking... "Yeah, right! All these people can't possibly feel that way, too." But, sometimes we do, and maybe that is one of the reasons we are all on here, to connect to others even if only on the computer, to get answers and give answers to feel better.. which isn't bad- it's a safe enough way to feel better and to connect to strangers.. If I told you about my last impulsive "escape" you would probably laugh. I tried to email you, but upon realizing that I can't I will put it briefly... I recently found out that my husband (of only 5 months) was cheating on me, so I moved out of our apartment back into my parents house on a Friday afternoon, over the weekend, it was a very trying time, me trying to deal with my own emotions and with my family, also trying to deal with my husband and his emotions, on Monday, my boss said something to me that triggered me. I quit my job, cleaned out my office, and headed for Canada, with nothing in my car except the clothes I was wearing, some money, a blanket, and a tent. (This is the shortest version that I could give of the story).
Thankfully, Canadian border patrol turned me around and sent me back to the states. After two days driving in the mountains and trying to calm myself down, I checked myself into the hospital and now I'm completing a day course to quell my impulsive behavior.
That being said, I agree with the guy who told you to NOT go onto any medication too quickly, because psychiatrists are all about prescribing medication, but there are therapists that you can talk to that will help you sort out what is making you lonely and upset.
And, it might sound cheezy, but for me, I have found a variety of things to make me feel better, like journaling (doesn't have to look nice, it is only for yourself, just write any and every thought that comes to mind - then you can reread it days or months from now and surprise yourself with how you were thinking - and once thoughts are out of your head on paper they tend to bother you less), take a bath with scented bath beads and surround yourself with candles, buy a few fashion, photo, and other magazines, cut out phrases and pictures and make collages that show how you are feeling or what you are thinking - make a page that represents each of the people that you miss the most. Take a day off work, make the most gourmet meal you have ever made, save a little for yourself (to try of course) and give the rest to the busy neighbor you haven't yet met with the 5 children down the hall. (Not that I have done all of these, I am just trying to brainstorm possibilities.)

One thing that I will recommend is that the type of program that I am in is based on changing behaviors through Dialectical Behavior Therapy (Developed by Marsha Linnehan). I would suggest you look for a program in your area or information on line - this can help you quickly create a pattern for getting out of your impulsive behavior patterns and learning how to cope "effectively" (one of my teachers favorite words).

I would also urge you to find a therapist to go to. There should be one you can find that will have hours open to you and some places have sliding fees so that if you can't afford regular price they can work with you to find a price you can afford.

Then, another thing from therapy that I will send on to you... Realize that it is perfectly fine for you to feel however you feel... and sometimes you should revel in how you feel. Would we really enjoy being happy, if we never felt otherwise?
Negative feelings are important in order to show us that something is wrong, (kind of like physical pain stimulation)..
You would have more of a problem, if you couldn't feel upset or pain and therefore never knew that anything was wrong.

So you feel a lot of negative emotions, you have an incredibly amazing system in yourself that is telling you that something is wrong. Take some time to listen to it, figure out what it is telling you, then, do something "effective" about it.

(In the end, what's effective for you may or may not mean taking medication, you'll need to speak with someone who knows about that sort of thing..)

Anyway, I couldn't email you, but if you'd like to email me to chat more, email : [e-mail]

I generally only take the time to answer questions when I'm bored or not doing too well... but after answering this one, I'm even smiling.. I hope the answers here that you receive help you.. and I'm sure any one of the answerers would be willing to chat with you more if you emailed any of us.

Answer 8

cool, let's be sad and lonely together and we can think of ways to anihalate the world!!! but be happy don't worry it all gets better, do the go out and get trashed things and talk to as many strangers as you see!!!!