I want to add some spice to my sex life. I have been married for 4 years and with him for 7. Don't get me wrong, the sex is out of this world but I want to do something that will blow his mind. I am open to just about anything, but am too shy to make the first move. I have never brought out anything other then massage oils. He is more than enough for me but I want to be more than enough for him as well.
2006-11-08 10:08:29 · 10 answers · asked by Kerri E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention...we have 2 children ages 4years and 10 months. So we have to "work around" them.
2006-11-09 07:18:56 · update #1
Go out of your way to do something completely out of character for yourself. Maybe rent a cabin or hotel room...learn how to give the ultimate lap dance...or even add some cute or sexy lingerie. If your lingerie is a costume it will be fun to role play, such as being a nurse or maid. And if you don't have a pair of stelletos...go get some girl.
2006-11-08 10:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by mysterious_qt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. My hubby and I have been together for a total of 5 years. What I did was to go and find the kama sutra book. It has some different positions in it I would have not thougt of. I think the first thing you need to do is find out what really gets you going and what gets him going and work from there. Sorry it TMI but my hubby loves skirts. So I work with that. And he knows I love the whole red rose romantic stuff and he works with that. Just remember to be open and honest with each other. If you don't feel comfy with something don't do it!
2006-11-08 10:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by mzwest83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The # 1 fantasy for most men is sex with 2 women. (one of course being you.) It's not because we are more than 1 woman can handle, and certainly not because we are unhappy with the sex we are getting. It's not even something we would want to be a regular thing but it would certainly add some spice to the everyday great sex we are already getting.
2006-11-08 10:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be open with him and ask him what are some of his fantasys. Sharing fantasys is a great place to start. You may find some common ground to build on. Some of his fantasys will be to far out there....lol, and some of them will be something that is workable. Just listening to them will get him worked up the first time. Im sure once you have heard them all, you will get some ideas. Oh, and share yours with him too. I love hearing my wife's fantasys. Maybe he will surprise you with one of yours.
2006-11-08 11:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by daddy4u2enjoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First... kick the shyness... that'll get his attention... you can be very female by enjoying your sexuality... Something as simple as blindfolding him during a massage can be very erotic. Figure out what your kink is, read about it, try it, if it doesn't appeal to you, at least you tried.
2006-11-08 10:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by frogsandweeniedogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shy. Just talk to him about it. Ask him what his fantasies are and what really turns him on. Just talking to him about it may turn him on.
2006-11-08 10:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by angrybee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. My husband had some surprisingly naughty requests when I asked him one time what his fantasy was.
2006-11-08 10:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake him up with a BJ.
2006-11-08 16:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by tex37curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your husband can make a date to your local adult novelty store
2006-11-08 10:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F/M/F is the way to go.
2006-11-08 10:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋