Mr EX and i split up 10months ago, we have a baby together and I love him so much all I have ever wanted is for us to be together, he's let me down countless times in the past and i have always forgiven him. I'm not so sure he's convinced he made the right choice when he left us from things he's said to me. If he hasn't should I give him yet another chance or should I stay clear of him????
2006-11-08 10:04:28 · 22 answers · asked by sweeteyes_72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wow hard one to answer and only you knows the answer to that,i guess it depends in what ways your fellow has let you down.
You cant keep forgiving him and will he allways be that way as it wont just be you he lets down but your child together to.
You need to take each day as it comes and lay down a few hard rules and see what happens,trouble is will you follow your head or your heart
good luck
2006-11-08 10:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steer clear love - you've obviously done okay on your own for 10 months without him messing your head up. If he's done it countless times before he aint never gonna change. If you really want to try again why not have a trial run - like NOT living together for a while before jumping in with both feet. He sounds like a typical guy - always thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. At least if you dont commit fully - you cant get so hurt. I wish you luck xx
2006-11-08 10:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to do whats best for your baby. You didn't say what kinds of things he's done to let you down in the past. If it was drugs or physical abuse or something like that then its probably best if you don't get back together. If he cheated on you or lied to you it might be worth it to give him a second chance. I think deep down inside you know what the right thing to do is. Be honest with yourself and don't forget there are many many men out there to choose from if the ex is the right one for you.
2006-11-08 10:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by mum2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt you say he left you countless times in the past? so what makes it different this time around? i think things aren't going his way so now he's ready to come back until he thinks something better has come along...let him go his merry way and you go yours... if he chooses to not be in the baby's life and refuse to live up to his responsibilities...well than common sence would tell you what kind of man your dealing with here...you have to have more respect for yourself than that...i would make him realize what he's lost....don't be weak.... the only thing that should matter to you is him helping you take care of the baby....but don't use the baby as a weapon to try to keep him or to hold things over his head...just let him go and show him that you could make it without him....remember he's the one who walked out on you and the baby.
2006-11-08 10:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by tanya m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have a child together swings this to favor making an attempt to see if there can be a future for the 3 of you. Make sure he is aware that it is a final try and stick to it.
2006-11-08 10:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear of him!! You already know the answer....a leopard can't and doesn't change his spots!
He's probably "between loves" at the moment and any port in a storm will do....He's lonely and scared and wants what is comfortable - unfortunately - that's you...
Stay Clear - it can only lead to more heartbreak for you
2006-11-08 10:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two truely love each other, go for it. You know the old saying.."if you love someone set them free, if they come back, they're yours forever" or something. Maybe he needed some time to grow up and now he's realized what a good thing he had with you. Well Good Luck!!
2006-11-08 10:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by Vikky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving too many chances only shows that he can always come back to you. Try and keep it strickly about the baby and continue on with your own life. I think a change will take place if he see's your not there for him.
2006-11-08 10:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a painful thing.
If he doesn't want to be with you, then if you do get back together, it's not going to be a comfortable relationship. I think it's time to just pull yourself together and stand on your own two feet. Don't worry, it's highly likely love will touch your heart again- he's not worth clinging to.
2006-11-08 10:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Link 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a partner that did the same to me for years the promises came and failed after 11 years i got out found a great guy who loved me and my baby and my ex is nowhere to be seen all he wants is a toy he can play with and control take that away and he will go good luck
2006-11-08 11:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by dawn300873 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋