I want to marrie him but my family thinks he just wants to marry me just to make them mad. my mother and father do not like him. but the things is we have two kids together and been together for 5 years and my family been tryin there best to brake us up.it like the more they try the more i love and want to be with him.
2006-11-08 09:59:38 · 20 answers · asked by sweet ladie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me see . . . you've been with him for 5 years and you have 2 kids together . . .
I don't think he just wants to marry you to spite your parents.
Marry him already.
2006-11-08 10:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to Evaluate what your parents/family are saying:
In general, you need to first determine whether your parents are bad decision makers in general, or are they good, honest working people?
When you can determine that, then you can determine whether they truly have your best interest at heart. Whether this man is good enough for you, or not.
You have to look past your emotions and the actual relationship you have with them. Evaluate it from an outside perspective. Look at the lives they have created for themselves. What sort of people are they. Then look at what they are saying according to that.
Also, I suggest you read up on a few Dr. Laura books - all can be found at bookstores and online. I beg you to do this, it will save you more future heartache:
Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives
Ten Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Lives
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
Bad Childhood, Good Life
http://www.drlaura.com/main/
2006-11-08 10:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by nuovoterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already spent 5 years with him against your family's wishes and already have 2 kids with him, why are you asking this question in the first place? You have already chosen him over your parents and family ! There's nothing to discuss. You have already made a decision a long time ago when you decided to have kids with him.
2006-11-08 10:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families can be a real pain in the you know what. If your parents are meddling in the relationship you need to tell them to mind their own business and be respectful of your wishes. If they can't, then tell them the grand kids won't be coming over anymore. They are probably poisoning the kids with their words. Lastly, get married. You have 2 kids. Children need a strong family bond, plus they need the security of knowing that mom and dad are a solid team. Good Luck.
2006-11-08 10:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by david w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IFthere is truelove between the both of you, kids and a good relationship then go for it marrie him no matter what people said, it is your life and it is your future... But if you think he is getting married with you just because he wants to make them feel bad then talk to him and set up things straigth just make sure it will be because he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and your kids and like I said before if there is a good relationship, trust , care and love then go for it and don't look back !!! best wishes !!!
2006-11-08 10:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been together 5 years and have children together, but don't feel your mate is sincere about marriage? It appears that you have a problem commiting and you are using your family as an excuse not to marry your mate.
You cannot blame your family for your feelings towards your finance and vice versa. You need to own up to your feelings.
2006-11-08 10:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together for five years and have kids together and love each other (for the right reasons) then you should get married (if you want). Don't let your parents thinking get in the way of your life. Maybe they are jealous because you are happy and maybe they aren't.
2006-11-08 10:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by jonesin_am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two perspectives
1. In this day and age, husbands come and go, but family is forever and will likely be there to pick you up after he has gone away.
2. I bet you didn't set your mom and dad up with each other, so don't let them select your spouse for you. If he turns out to be a mistake let it be "yours", learn from it, and move on.
2006-11-08 10:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be blind to love.... dont let the kids be the reason y u r there.... ask ur self y dont they like him... i mean after 5 years and 2 wounderful kids there must be something that he has done or is not doing right. i mean both of them r against him. usually they try to promote marriage when u have been there that long n u having kids, moms n dads usually want that to happen
2006-11-08 10:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by 1plum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats always the case, the more someone says we can't have something we want it even more. But to be honest, its your life and if you want to marry him, then do it, if you love each other and both are willing to be there for the long haul, then why not.
2006-11-08 10:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋