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I dont use tampons cause they hurt putting them in. But i have heard that if you dont use them to stretch your vagina, when you have sex it will hurt very bad. Is that true?

2006-11-08 09:52:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Women's Health

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Tampons are not good things, they are very unhygienic and unsafe because they prevent normal vaginal cleaning, give bacteria a place to multiply, dry out the vaginal mucosa as well as a lot of other negative effects, this is why commercial tampons like Tampax are the most harmful out of over 20 different menstrual options.

Tampons have nothing to do with sex, they are inserted into the vagina to absorb menstrual flow, they are harmful to the vagina, where as sex does not have to include penetration into the vagina, nor should it be bad for vaginal health. It can hurt girls and women to have sex - a lot of people will say that sex the first time should hurt, but this is pure myth.

It is amazing the number of girls and women who will perpetuate this myth, but in all fairness it is no surprise as so many people are ignorant about sex and the female body, and there are still a lot of taboos surrounding female sexuality and the female body that probably started off the ideas on anything to do with the genitals hurting – menstruation, child-birth, sex, none of these things need to be painful but people constantly tell girls and women that they are supposed to be painful. People simply refuse to learn, or because they believe it will or should hurt they will think nothing of it if it does, some will even carry on having sex just to let their partners enjoy sex.

Girls and women have the ability to stop sex if it hurts, try again later, demand other forms of sex prior to penetration and have every right to enjoyable sex – pain is your bodies way of telling you that something is wrong, sex should be pleasurable.

Sex the first time can hurt normally due to a few common reasons;

-Hymen breaking – this can be painful, but it is just as likely to be pleasurable or have no feeling at all, some girls can bleed a lot where as some girls may not bleed at all. A lot of girls hymens are broken before penetrative sex so this is not an issue for them, but everyone is different.

-Not being emotionally ready – a lot of girls and women convince themselves they are ready for sex when really they are not, they either feel pressured by friends or their partners, if not ready they will not enjoy sex and it will make sex difficult. If a girl believes sex will be painful it will be painful because they will tense up making it hard for the vagina to stretch as it should.

-Not being physically ready – only 30% of women orgasm from penetrative penis to vaginal sex, women's bodies simply are not made to be stimulated by penetration alone so need sex before penetration (i.e. foreplay) in order to make sure the vagina is lubricated enough, elongated enough, flexible enough and to make sure the clitoris is stimulated enough - ideally a woman should orgasm prior to having penetrative sex. There is no such thing as something making someone less-tight (apart from natural childbirth for some time) the vagina naturally stretches to twice it's size when you are aroused.

Tampons can hurt if they are put in incorrectly as too low down or put into the wrong hole it can be painful, pains similar to very bad menstrual cramps, if this is what is happening simply remove the tampon and try again at a later time.

Often nerves affect tampon insertion, your vagina naturally stretches and expands there is also lubrication in the discharge and menstrual flow to help insertion, but if you are nervous this will make the muscles in your vagina tense up making penetration difficult. You may want to look at the following article, it is about painful penetrative sex, but much of the information and advice is also valid here as it is primarily about painful vaginal penetration and how to resolve the problem so explain why this can cause pain - http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/owtowow.html

If your hymen is in tact this may also make tampon insertion difficult, the hymen breaking can be painful for some girls, where as for some girls there is no pain at all or the hymen breaking can even be pleasurable. If your hymen is in tact this may be what it causing you pain so you may want to wait until you are older to use tampons. If you don't know if your hymen is in tact you can look by sitting comfortably and using a mirror to look at your vulva (external part of your genitals) to see the vaginal opening. The hymen is different from girl/woman to girl/woman but usually if in tact it will look like a ring of flesh around the opening to your vagina, where as if broken it will look like flaps of skin around the vaginal opening. There is a good site that shows images, not photos, of the hymen so you know what to look for here - http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html

Tampons can also be felt even when put into the vagina correctly as tampons are dry wads of material it means that they can cause friction burns and drying of the vaginal walls, chemicals within commercial tampons can also cause irritation or allergic reactions. The string can be felt, many women find that when it moves about during the day it can become painful as the string can pull tight between the inner labia (inner lips) of their vulva (external genitals) acting like cheese string - ouch.

Tampons expand, widthways expanding tampons can contribute to bloating feeling during menstruation and length-ways expanding tampons can expand into the already sensitive cervix, tampons also pose health risks meaning that the decrease in vaginal health can contribute to menstrual health problems such as heavy menstrual flow or menstrual cramping.

2006-11-09 06:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0 0

A tampon really shouldn't hurt the first time you put one in. It might be a bit uncomfortable at first but after you get it in there you won't feel it at all. When I first used a tampon I went through a whole box before I finally got one in correctly. You should keep trying until you get it right. Trust me, they are worth it! But whether or not you use tampons the first time you have sex is most likely going to hurt regardless. A penis is much bigger (hopefully!) than a tampon so its going to be a much different experience. Everyone is different. But I think for the majority of woman, the first time hurts bit.

2006-11-08 09:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by mum2be 2 · 2 0

Sex is going to hurt the first time anyways. But just so you know tampons don't stretch your vagina. They form around your vagina. Cotton isn't strong enough to stretch you. Stick to what is comfortable.

2006-11-08 09:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

. Never heard of using a tampon to stretch your vagina .But when you have sex for the first time it will hurt .Make sure the guy is very gentle with you .

2006-11-08 11:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0 0

not really. it could hurt a little less, but when some girls have sex it doesnt hurt at all the first time, even if they dont use tampons. it doesnt make a big difference if you use tampons or not. if you want to try tampons again, get a junior size with a plastic applicator. those are the easiest to insert.

2006-11-08 10:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0 0

Your vagina naturally opens when sexually excited, no need to stretch anything! If it hurts when u have sex, your body is obviously not ready (sexually stimulated).
Don't force anything sexual.

Remember to always wear a condom, no glove, no love.

p.s.
Tampons have been proven to cause toxic shock syndrome, read the warnings on the instructions.

2006-11-08 10:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0 0

No and for god sake don't stretch your vagina out before sex, why would a guy like that?

2006-11-08 09:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by LOUDOBBS 2 · 1 1

That is total nonsense, and if you are asking a question like that hon, you are way too young to be having sex! Hold off till you're a little older! Okay?

2006-11-08 09:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe:) 2 · 0 0

Of course not because tons of people event the ones i don't know wear pads and they've had sex and described it inly hurts the first time and if only of your partner is too rough. don't worry

2006-11-08 10:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You are putting your tampon in wrong if it hurts. You should not feel it at all if you have it in right.

2006-11-08 10:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by sue sue 1 · 0 0

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