Ihave been friends with some eople in my building who are Sikh Indian.The husband is liberal the wife is punjabi religious vegetarian.They make me feel ,not myself and I feel controlled. I need to do what they think I should.I cancelled the frienship with them and feel 'guilty'.I have mixed feelings about what I did. The husband said" I don't need you", when I told him I want to be counted out as a friend. They considered me "family" he said and I am now removing myself. Was I right in what I did? How can I change my feelings so they are better???
2006-11-08 09:36:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds as if you did the best thing. They are controlling people
2006-11-08 09:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You need to put value on yourself and your own beliefs. Real family dont control, they will love you regardless of your different beliefs. If they considered you family then I feel sorry for any of their children because they will only be accepted while ever they hold the same beliefs as their parents. I believe you did the right thing. You need to feel free to think and do what you think is right, not what others expect of you. That is what the Bill of Rights is all about. That is what being part of civilized society is all about.....Freedom of Speech, being accepted and not judged for your own beliefs. I think you got out in the nick of time before they really got their claws into you. The husband needed you alright, he needed you so he could feel powerful. He no longer has that power over you, so you are no longer useful in feeding is ego.
Go find some real friends who wont want to control you, who will accept you for all the "good" and "bad". You are a free man....no-one has the right to control any one. You havent got the problem it the married couple who have the real problem. Enjoy life the way you see fit....it is your Right.
2006-11-08 17:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's more important? How you feel about yourself or being friends with someone who apparently doesn't care that much about how you feel, why else would he have made that comment? If they were true friends, they would have expressed concern and regret for the situation. You did the right thing.
2006-11-08 17:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they are your true friends you should be able to talk to them about how you feel. They shouldn't force their way of life on you a true would except you for who you are the same person that they meet in the first place.If they can't except who you are & not force their way of life on you making you feel uncofortable then you were right to end the relationship.
2006-11-08 17:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on get a live, like you are doing i guess, if they make you feel uncomfortable by what they are doing, tell them for gods sake, it's you that has the problem not them.are you Indian? people are people, i think it is you who feel uncomfortable with them
2006-11-08 17:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋