My boyfries wanted me to terminate pregnancy?

Question

and is now finding it hard to cope with the reality, everyone on my side of the family knows, and is happy, him and his family have mixed emotions, and almost negative. Please help at times he wants to be there, will it pass! four weeks pregnant , help.

Answer 1

Honey, this is your body and your Baby! If he doesn't want to be involved, then kick him to the curb. I was preg. and my ex said the same thing. I never regret the decision to dump him. I did end up having a miscarriage and it all worked out okay. Don't let him decided this for you.

Answer 2

First of all, the fetus is in YOUR uterus, and it's your decision alone as to whether or not you'll carry it to birth. Don't let your boyfriend influence your decision because you are the one who will have to live with the outcome for the rest of your life.

He may or may not come around and be a father to this child. Be prepared for the harsh reality that many men are just not good fathers and they'd rather cut and run instead of take care of their kids. There isn't a thing in this world wrong with being a single mother, despite what you hear on tv over and over, fatherless children are not all messed up criminals. One good parent is all it takes. Not to mention that it's better for the baby if they have one good parent, as opposed to two parents, if one of which isn't worth crap and causes strife in the home.

You need to forge ahead and give the baby the best life you can, father or no. Just make sure that after the baby is born you follow the steps you need to, to sue this guys for child support. If he can make a baby he can pay for a baby.

If he decides to be in the baby's life, then good, but just know that women are strong, and we can care for our kids without a man.

Answer 3

Well, if he is going to be a jerk then you should consider finding another boyfriend. He was there to help make that baby and if he can't handle it then don't let him drag you down with him. You deserve to be happy during this time..he could end up just making you upset and ruining your pregnancy emotionally. If he wants to be there and help you and be good to you then that's great but please don't let him ruin it for you. Even if it was unplanned and you are scared you still deserve better treatment. Don't worry about what his family thinks. They aren't going to be the ones taking care of the baby. It may pass or it may not. Maybe he just needs a little bit of time to get used to the idea but if he starts acting poorly twoards you then I would suggest keeping your distance. Best of luck. I hope he comes around and is there for not only you but your baby too!

Answer 4

This is entirely up to you. You have the support of your family which will be a big help to you. Be prepared to raise this child without him since he is against it, but, big deal, he doesn't sound like much of a man anyway. A good man would be supporting YOUR decision. Not like he wasn't part of you getting you this way.

You always have adoption as an option, rather than termination. So many families are waiting for babies.

No matter what you decide it's YOUR decision.

Answer 5

Remember, a baby is worth more than any money in the whole wide world. I think you should talk things out with your boyfriend and tell him you dont want to abort the baby. A baby is a living person too just like us. We can show respect in life by not taking a life of an unborn child. Aborting an unborn child is just like killing a person who is born. Please, dont kill the child. Like I said a child is worth more money than you could dream of. God created the life of babys, so you should give birth at least. No matter how much you think of the baby, it is still important to god. He created life and we dont have the right to kill. god does not want us to kill. You can always give it up for adoption, then you will have a clean conscience.

Answer 6

It doesn't matter what your boyfriend wants. It's a sad thing but more often than not a mother takes on most of the responsibility of raising a child whether the father is there or not. So knowing that, you have to do what is best for you.

Answer 7

You should do what you want to do. If you want to keep the baby you should. If he does not want to be there for you or the baby then he does'nt need to be around you. There are alot of single mothers out there and I'm sure you would be better off that way, you have your families support that more then enough.

Answer 8

If you are happy about it and want the baby, DON'T worry about anyone else, even your boyfriend. ABORTION IS NOT SOMETHING YOU CAN EVER TAKE BACK!!!!!!!!! If he won't support you kick his @ss out!! This should be a wonderful time for you, not an upsetting time. Plenty of women raise babies alone! Do what YOU feel is right for YOU! This baby will be the new love of your life, trust me!

Answer 9

This is 100 percent your decision. If you don't want to abort DON'T DO IT. You will regret it for the rest of your life. If he can't handle it show him the door...just make sure he knows to expect to pay child support. It takes two! Good luck and thank goodness you have a supportive family!!

Answer 10

Now you are looking for help and advice. In fact the times for help was when you were trying to get started this whole game of dating, gf and bf.
Its more moral, ethical and decent way that one gets married b4 start of sexual activities. Its just beginning of preg. (not sure yet) the gentleman is trying to escape? Bcoz there is no marriage contract, there are no witneses etc. He can even disown your baby. Real very alarming situation.