help me please?

Question

am in a real serious situation here. my boyfiend and i have been arguing for the past 2 weeks its overbearing am stress out and i dont want to lose him. we are together for 5yrs 2mths. we have to make a decision cuz we cant keep hurting each other so. he blames me for all the fites.am always wrong i dont understand he tells me i have an attitude and i need to change my ways am fed up cuz am trying alot with him i love him more than my self i told him last nite to go his way and i will go my way but i really cant do that.please help me i dont want to breakup with him and he doesnt want to take time to decide what he really wants please someone help me .,,,,

Answer 1

try dr.phil

Answer 2

Girl first of all you need to work on your self worth. You said you love your boyfriend more than you love yourself! That's not good you should be the most important in your relationship. If you have been together for 5 yrs and for the past 2 weeks you have been hurting each other how much more are you going to take? If he's right then you can invest in some self help books and work on your self. But if he's wrong, what are you waiting for dump him now so you can start to heal and move no. We can't help you, you have to help yourself.

Answer 3

I m sorry but if you are always figthing and he is blaming you for everything i think the best thing to do is to breakup. I mean you dont want to fight all the time and stress yourself out do you, that just isnt right. But if you really dont want to break up try just taking some time away from each other. Like maybe he can go out with his friends for a weekend and you can go out with yours. Take a weekend away from eachother. Maybe after having some time away from each other you guys wont get on each others nerves and you wont fight.

Answer 4

Wow thats a very tough situation your in...well if you guys have been going out for 5 years im sure you guys can figure out some way to work it out. But if you guys keep arguing like this maybe you should consider taking a break like not breaking up but just staying away from each other for awhile until you both cool down and figure out what you want to do about this. Im sure theres some way you guys can work it out epecially since your guys love eachother you just have to both work together to change your ways in order to make your relationship work.

Answer 5

Sounds like its time to take a break from each other. He needs to accept you for the way you are and quit trying to change you. And you need to love yourself more than him. You can't truly love someone if you don't love yourself and it sounds like you are co-dependent on him. And if the relationship was that important to him then he would take the time to sit down and discuss the situation with you in a civil matter instead of duking it out all the time.

Answer 6

The key statement, "I love him more than myself" says that you probably have low self esteem and this is making you hang onto a relationship that is clearly not good for either of you. It doesn't sound like you know what you want, from him or for yourself, but it has gone on so long you believe it has to continue. It doesn't. Take a break and take care of yourself. Get out of the house, do something for someone less fortunate.

Answer 7

it sounds like you aren't in love with him, your in comfort with him. you two just stay cause its comfortable. get out there and meet someone that you wont fight with all the time, dont waste another 5 and 1/2 years with him.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but this one's for u two to figure out. All i can say is best wishes to u both and i hope it all works out for the best. What's meant to be will be. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!