my son was born nov the 1. a week ago, and i have a two year old son that is very jealous, i feel bad because i feel like im leaving my son out. when i feed the baby my son gets very upset, but he still trys to hug the baby kisses him he is very sweet to him. i was just wondering what can i do"? so my son wont feel left out? i do pay attetion to him as much as i can but i just cant help seeing my son so sad?
2006-11-08 09:21:51 · 19 answers · asked by junkinmytrunk 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Let your son feel like he is an important part of taking care of the baby with you. You could ask him to get a diaper for the baby or he could help you pat the baby's back while you burp him. If he feels involved instead of just observing, hopefully he will feel proud of himself and his jealousy will subside.
2006-11-08 09:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Margo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old and an 18 month old. This is completely normal feelings. I would advice you not to leave your baby alone. In my supervision my son grabbed a blanket to put over my baby b/c he thought he was cold (over his face). I had a c-section and could not get around that good so I had my baby in the bassinet and my other son tried to get in with him. I know how you are feeling, but this will pass my boys play soooo good together now. This will only last for about 4-6 months. Set aside some time while dad is watching your baby to read to your older child or just tickle him in the floor. Tell him you love him all the time and that he is the best big brother ever! Talk positive about him being such a good big brother and his little brother's protector. Don't worry you are doing the best that you can. Explain to him that when he was this little you had to do the same things with him. There are also books at Wal-mart about big brothers read one of them to him. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-08 17:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by jacket2230 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem my daughter was 20 months old when I had my son. I let my daughter help me with the baby, she would try and feed him, get me diapers, get him clothes out and things like that. It made her feel like a Big girl and she wasn't as jealous after that. Just remember that you need to have time alone with your two year old. Do things that he likes to do and make him feel that just because you have a new baby in the family it does not mean that you don't love him anymore. Good Luck and Congratulations!
2006-11-08 18:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece was 2 years old when my nephew was born. She was more curious than anything, and my sister did her best to make sure that the little girl was not left out of the "fun" She got to watch the newborn being fed, and bathed and changed. She was even allowed to help some, by holding the bottle of shampoo and such. Eventually she forgot the baby was an interloper and learned to accept him as another being, similar to the family pets. They are now 6 and nearly 4, and they are the bestest of pals.
2006-11-08 17:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by anon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is in the same position. She just makes sure to make some time for her toddler everyday - he gets cuddles before bedtime, he's asked to help out (grabbing a diaper, wipes, point out where the baby's head is, because mommy forgot! hehe). When she's nursing her youngest son, she'll talk to her older son or read him a story with a free hand, etc.
Letting them play a part in taking care of the baby really seems to help with the jealousy.
2006-11-08 18:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that in this situations it is more important to pay more attention to the 2 year old then the newborn. Let him help you with the babies bottle when is time for him to eat. When you are going to change the babies diaper, let the older one help you grab the diaper and baby wipes. Make him feel a part of this new babies life. Good Luck
2006-11-08 17:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not used to the idea of "sharing" you, or your attention. You need to make time for "just him", and whenever possible, involve him in the care of the baby. Whatever it takes to make him feel important.
And, congratulations on your new baby. My son was born November 1 way back in 1981. That's All Saints Day.
2006-11-08 17:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we had a daughter, our two older sons acted out the night we brought her home from the hospital, but I don't remember it being an ongoing problem.
I think you should plan something special with your two year old son. Something that just the two of you could do. Then he will understand that you have time for him.
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 17:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Racewalking Invicta Swami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! My son was born on october 29, and my daughter is going to be 2 in January. i am having the same troubles you are! She loves her brother, she tries to "share" everything with him, pats him gently, kisses him, and hugs him, but she still has a lot of jelousy issues! I set aside time to spend with just her and me, and I feel better, but she doesn't seem to be changing. I will looking forward to your other replies to this question! Just know that you are not alone!
2006-11-08 17:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your older child help take care of the baby. I dont mean let him feed it, bathe it ect. Let him pick out the baby's clothes/PJ's, ask him to get you a diaper or the wipes and if you bottle feed after the baby is fed as the older one to put the bottle in the kitchen for you and let him know what a good helper he is being.
2006-11-08 18:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋