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I always thought I would be 24 when I had my first baby, and plus I thought the age "24" sounded like a better age to become a mom than 23. Yes I know it sounds ridiculous.

So my husband wanted to start trying to conceive in December, but I didn't want to because then our baby would be born mid September and my birthday is October 1st. So I would still be 23 years old.

I wanted to start trying to conceive in late January because then our baby's due date would be 3 weeks after my 24th birthday. And unless the baby was premature, I would be 24 when I gave birth.

Is this the craziest thing you have ever heard? I know 1 to 2 months of age doesn't matter, so can someone talk some sense into me? I know it may take months to get pregnant, so it won't matter start in December. My husband laughs and I know its silly, but its so weird that I feel this way.

2006-11-08 09:19:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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life is what happens while your making other plans.

i think sometimes we get lessons that say "hey, you can't control everything in life."

you may have had the goal of the magical 24 but the universe might have different ideas.

maybe now is the right time.

who's to say that when you plan for 24 that it will actually happen? i think the focus here is "I want a healthy baby when the time is right."

so many people cant have children ... or have them and can't take care of them... why not let go of the need to control the timing and just enjoy the gift of the child you and your husband are meant to have?

enjoy december and christmas creating a new life. sounds corny but hey, what better time to create something awesome :)

have fun with parenthood when it happens :)

2006-11-08 09:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 0 0

I decided I wanted to have my first child before I turned 25...don't know why, that just seemed like my magic number. Without even trying, my baby will be born about 3 months before I turn 25. So no, it isn't that weird. But, don't let it consume you. Trust me, once you find out your pregnant you will be so happy and excited, you won't care if you're technically only 23 when you have the baby. Plus, there is no promise you'll get pregnant as soon as you start trying. With some couples it happens right away (we weren't even trying) and I know for others it can take months if not more.

2016-05-21 22:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think its crazy. I didn't want to have a Nov or Dec baby because I think the holidays take away from celebrating birthdays. My hubby thought I was nuts but went all anyway.
It doesn't hurt anything to wait. I think as women, we sometimes put too much thought into some things....so what? It doesn't sound like your husband minds, and if he does, just tell him its more practice for the perfection.
Good luck, and don't just give in because you feel silly. If it means something to you, that's all that matters.

2006-11-08 09:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by BossMama 2 · 0 0

It's weird, but babies always come as the best unplanned, i was 20 planning my wedding and found out was pregnant and had to re-arrange for 2 months earlier, i was just 21 when i had my liitle girl, shes 15 mths now.

But practicing is the fun part so enjoy yourselves while you can, (you will be knee deep in nappies soon) leave later if you want but either way when you have your little bambino in your arms your age wont matter, because you have a beautiful baby to love and care for.

Best of luck

2006-11-08 09:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Not really weird, just hope Mother Nature cooperates with you on this. 24 is a good mature number to have children and if thats what you want, then hopefully itll happen. For whatever reason you have chosen that number for doing this and theres nothing wrong with that. But if the number thing doesnt work out then just pray for a very healthy bouncy baby whenever he/she decides its time to make you guys parents. And besides it really isnt anyone elses business what you two think or want. Best of luck in your endeavor

2006-11-08 09:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0 0

Certainly it's weird. But hey, it's the way you feel, and it's only a few months, so just delay the "attempts" until you're ready. If this is something you want, and you change just to accommodate what he wants (even though we're only talking about a few months), you run the small risk of resenting the changes. So, just stick with the plan you've got in your head. Your hubby sounds like he's cool with it, considering he's laughing and all, so what's a few more months? Enjoy and good luck!

2006-11-08 09:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0 0

I don't think it's weird to have a plan. But don't let the age thing consume you. Once that baby is born you will be slammed into parenthood and will have a whole new set of problems. Just enjoy and remember to take good care of yourself. When you become a mom you will get to you last if at all.

2006-11-08 09:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0 0

You are absolutely not crazy. There are so few things in life we actually have control over. Waiting a couple months is no big deal. Pregnancy is. And being completely in love with being pregnant is the best feeling in the whole world. Once your husband understands that is silly, but it really is important to you, he should understand.

2006-11-08 09:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by ssumner118 1 · 0 0

It's a little crazy. However, I believe things happen when they do for a reason. Maybe you have always wanted it this way because that's the way it's supposed to be. Maybe it doesn't have everything to do with the exact age you are, but more with the timing. That's when you and your husband will be ready and something in your gut is telling you that. Follow your intuition.

2006-11-08 09:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by graybear 4 · 0 0

It does sound weird but most of us have had those feelings. I wanted to be done having my children by the time I was 37 so I wouldn't be an old granny when they are teenagers and it worked out great.

2006-11-08 09:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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