me and this guy has been on/off for going on almost 2 yrs. in the beginning i was a bit too controlling/distant and in turn he thought i was dramatic/uncaring. he also had tendencies to just be moody and talk about how hot other women were, just to "make me care" (he said).also many times our debates would lead to arguments bc he's very firm in his beliefs and so am i, but he tends to get defensive easily and lose his temper. so i would dump him and get back together bc he begged. we've been up/down to the point of our parents/friends disliking us dating, and even suggesting couple's counseling, which i would try (but he doesn't want to).we used to be serious after we somehow fixed our problems (around the 8th month) but then i took a 5month break with him bc i left school for awhile, and now we're on/off but this time he dumps me anytime i try to confront him at all.i love him and he says he loves me.
could we have emotional disorders?
2006-11-08 09:09:19 · 4 answers · asked by l_brew0 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I see two people who think everything is supposed to be perfect and when it's not, you think it's the end of the world and you split up. If you can't talk without fighting, or your afraid to talk because it will start a fight, do you really love him? If you have to change him to something else, then whatever that something is, is what you really love. Love is wanting happiness for the other person. What you to have is not wanting to be alone.
Stay single for awhile, make a list of what you want in a person, what you can't deal with at all, and what is negotiable. If your guy doesn't fit that list, it's time to move on.
People spend months looking for the perfect couch, but beleive in love at first sight.
2006-11-08 09:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have serious issues in the way you communicate with and understand each other. You might surprise me, but I do believe the only way is to go to counselling... which isn't a bad thing! Counselling can teach you alot about yourselves, the way you communicate now, and better ways to approach each other when you have issues..
I do agree with the one that said if you continue as you are and never work to get out of this relationship style, and you ever bring children into the situation - they could become rather messed up... good luck!
2006-11-08 14:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good combination....when one is emotionally unstable..the other should complement the shortcomings of the other...nah 2 unstable ones....not gonna work....if u will have kids u will just mess them up big time......
2006-11-08 10:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg get off the roller coaster already and grow up both of you.
2006-11-08 09:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋