He just left and I have 4 boys to raise now. He seems happy to be with his new family. We just adopted a little boy the end of August then he left the end of September.
2006-11-08 09:03:39 · 10 answers · asked by bashful670 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A broken heart never heals...it's like a piece of pottery that has been smashed...you can glue it back together, but no matter how tight you seal it, you can still see the cracks...Time...It takes time..I know..It's been 10yrs and the memory still tears me up...but, it's fading a touch, enough for me to be able to go on with it reasonably well.....I'm sorry to hear this....Good luck to you....
2006-11-08 09:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that this happened to you. It will take a little while before you are over this heart ache. His new family may seem happy now, but if he did this to you then his new woman better watch out because he will probably do it again. God will bless you with another husband. Sometimes in life a door will close in order for another one (a better one) to open. Just put all of your energy into your boys and enjoy your life.
God Bless!
2006-11-08 17:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about this. I can't tell you how long it will take and you may never completely heal. All I can tell you is stay strong for those little boys. They need you now just as much as you need them. Surround yourself with your kids, friends and family that loves you. Hang in there and just know that every day, week and month it will get easier and easier. I wish you the best.
2006-11-08 17:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving time varies but usually last from 3 - 12 months before a person is really ready to move on and puts true closure to relationship that they lost. Be there for the 4 boys and things will improve for you "one day at a time".
2006-11-08 17:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the betrayal is new, the pain is almost like a death, and it is, the death of a relationship with someone we trusted with our life. we also have fears to deal with, fears of the future, we often times have a foolish asumption we in some way are responsible for our hurt, but really our hurt, unfair and unjust as it is, is the result of choices, made by our spouse. we feel as if we are a failure. but it has little to do with us, it has more to do with his decisions. we need a support system to help us get through the pain. the pain is necessary, it serves the purpose of helping us get over it. eventually life does get easier, and the pain diminishes.he may seem happy now, he may seem he has gotten away with it, while u suffer, but i believe everyone must be accountable for things they do, and choices they make. my heart goes out to u, your going through exacly the same thing i had to go through 3 years ago, and it isn't the least but easy, but it does make us alot stronger.
2006-11-08 19:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Been through that myself. It took me a few months but eventually I did get over the hurt and humiliation and it made me stronger and I raised my children by myself and did quite well. I feel for you because I know how it is. The main thing is to not be weak and allow yourself to get involved with him "on the side" because you will lose again. If he sees his children, (mine didn't), then arrange it in a public arena and that will help you maintain your distance and self respect. Keep your resolve and begin dating as soon as you feel comfortable. They key word here is "dating". Not a relationship, not looking for marriage, but just date. Enjoy yourself for awhile. Good luck to you!
2006-11-08 17:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get down on yourself. As they say....there's more fish in the sea. go out and have some fun, maybe you'll run into somebody nice and you can start having a relationship with a decent guy.
2006-11-08 17:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Zig Zag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you I really do.It's been 10 years and my heart is still broke.I gave my husband another chance. It hadn't be easy but I no it is better then being without him.
2006-11-08 17:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you the exact amount of time but it probably wouldn't help anyway. Thats really sad men can be so cold .GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-08 17:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 5 yrs, so you have a long time to get even, so get mad ,get even, and get ALLLLLL his money and if they marry get her money too. Get a Lesbian Lawyer
2006-11-08 17:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by gobobgo55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋