I am 27 y.o single mom with a 9 y/o and found out im 7 wks pregers. Boyfriend knows about my pregnancy and wants an abortion .I don't really have the finances for this baby. I was planning on going back to school to finish college. I can't stand the idea of another abortion,i've had one before a few months ago for him, and i regretted it.He says he would help me financially, but may not be able to help my physically because he has a drug habit. Thats another reason for an abortion, the baby might have health defects due to his drug habits.My fam will be dissapointed but all i do all day is cry and can't make up my mind what to do.
2006-11-08 08:58:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to go to a doctor right away and get some help with what options are availlable to you.While, I am not pro-abortion, I do believe in the right to choose. You need to choose what is right for you, your unborn child and your son. If, the father can help you financially and you have access to good prenatal care, then you should consider adoption. But, if you still feel that you cannot handle a pregnancy, then you should do what is needed. Then, you need to get rid of the boyfriend and protect yourself against any other unplanned pregnancies!
2006-11-08 09:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just had an abortion, why would you put yourself back in the same situation again. Its not hard to use protection to prevent yourself from getting pregnant. On another note stop crying because thats not going to resolve the problem. At 27 I had 4 children and was single. However God made a way for me to take care my kids, blessed me with a very good job paying 62k with no degree, and I ended up getting married. It's not the baby fault, but this is a decision you are going to have to make.
2006-11-08 09:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by sisshonuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT get an abortion. You felt you were responsible enough to have sex and get pregnant, now be responsible enough to deal with the consequences without taking your baby's life. If you and your boyfriend cannot take care of a baby then you should put it up for adoption, there are many people out there who cannot have children that would love to have your baby. And in the future I would use some sort of birth control to avoid situations like this, even if you cannot afford it there are free clinics out there that offer low income individuals contraceptive at no cost. I hope this helps you make the right decision.
2006-11-08 09:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Mommy of 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling...how did you get yourself into this again?? You had an abortion several months ago and now you are pregnant again!!! Makes no sense to me. If you felt that strongly about not getting pregnant you would have prevented it. You must not be that upset about abortions bc you continue to put yourself in situation where you have to have one. I am not trying to me mean...but you seriously need to make a change in your life, otherwise you will end up with 5 kids and 10 abortions. I dont want that for you.
If the only way you can support this child is by getting help from a drug addict...then I would say let the little person go to heaven. As hard as it is for me to say that...he/she may be better off.
The most important thing is you learning your lesson!!! Stop having sex if you cant use protection!!!
Also...I dont even know what to say to you about your other real problem that was not mentioned in your question. Why are you with a drug addict?? Why is this man allowed your 9 y/o??
2006-11-08 09:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First thing you should do is drop your drug addict boyfriend. He says he will help you financially but not physically, that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. He's an addict. He won't help you out financially or physically. You already had one abortion for him. You shouldn't continue to have unprotected sex with someone that you know can't be a father to your child. I can't tell you what to do about the baby, but I can say that the decision that you make should be based soley on what you can live with and what you can handle. Don't base it on what he wants or anyone else because at the end of the day you are all you can depend on.
2006-11-08 09:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, there is no shame in adoption. Think of how desperate people across the country are for children - you know that they will offer the required financial and emotional support for the baby. Abortion is too drastic a decision to make.
If you were happy the way things were 7 weeks ago, then you already know what is the right decision to make. If you weren't happy - and it sounds as if you weren't - then you need to make these changes. I'm sure your family will still support you, however disappointed they might be, so you don't need to hurt yourself with a drug-abusing boyfriend or tortuting your conscience with what you already know is wrong.
My advice is to leave your boyfriend, face your family and continue with the pregnancy. Your perspective might change with the foetus growing inside you, and whatever decision is right for you will make itself apparent in time.
2006-11-08 09:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by the answer chancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see a lot of people attacking you, and I don't agree with abortion either,but you need to talk to someone! Abortion is NOT the answer. I agree with those that said to get rid of the druggie boyfriend instead of the baby. It is very unlikely that the baby will have problems because of HIS drug use, but if you are using that's a different story (not that I am saying you are). You need to get that "man" outof your house and away from your children. Be a stand up woman and mother and kick the loser to the curb and take care of your kids!!!
2006-11-08 09:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Momma21981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you want to do and not what your boyfriend wants you to do. It is your body, your choice. You need to tell him that abortion is not a form of birth control.
Finacially you may be short, but dont worry, you will cope with good money management.
Remember that each abortion that you have slightly decreases your chgance of getting pregnant. So this is an important decision.
I am pregnant with my second and currently studying at uni before baby arrives and maybe will return after putting my children in to creche.
Your family will come round. It is you they love. Do what is right for you and make up your own mind, not what your boyfriend wants you to do. Good luck x
2006-11-08 09:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by alexa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby is goign to be fine as long as you do not do drugs. WTF are you even with someone who is doign drugs if you have a 9 year old?? You are aware by being with him you are risking losing your child. If cops are to come and bang on your door and find drugs in your home they will not care if they are your boyfriends, they will take your child away from you. My aunt is a DCF member so trust me I know these things.
If you do not want the baby give it up for adoption, you should of none better, you have already killed one baby yet you had unprotected sex again.
You really need to straighten your life out and get a decent man, a child should not be around a drug addict, it is a bad influence and people are diffrent when they are messed up on drugs, you never know what they will do like he can attack you or your child. You need to get him help or walk away.
2006-11-08 09:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about adoption? Medicaid often covers prenatal care for pregnant mothers that are expecting. I think that abortion is a very selfish route. Why not give someone the opportunity to enjoy parenthood, and do something completely selfless yourself. Check out www.itsaboutlove.com or www.parentprofiles.com. Maybe that will help. Good luck!
2006-11-08 15:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋