My husband and I have been trying to conceive for over 2 years. We've been to fertility specialists. They can't find anything wrong with either of us. We've waiting until I'm ovulating (we got those ovulation kits), and nothing has worked. He wants to have children more than I do, and I can't wait until I'm a mommy. What do you all think is the problem? Again, serious answers only. Anything that is said that is against guidelines will get reported. Thank you.
2006-11-08 08:57:30 · 39 answers · asked by i_wanna_b_a_mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Joey K. You're jerk. Hopefully, I can find something in the guidelines so I can report you.
2006-11-08 09:00:21 · update #1
Scotty, we're going to use that as a last resort. Health insurance doesn't cover it, and it's expensive.
2006-11-08 09:01:50 · update #2
Thanks to all that actually answered seriously. I'll talk to him when he gets home, and go over what you all have said. mostly it was about stress. We'll also consider fertility drugs, AI, and In-Vitro if lowering stress doesn't work. Oh, and someone asked about hot tubs. No hot tubs, he can't stand that much heat. He was tested for low sperm count and his count is actually higher than normal. We have seen 4 specialists. If I can't actually get pregnant after a year or two, we'll consider adoption. Again, thank you all for your serious answers.
2006-11-08 09:11:10 · update #3
I have a sister-law and brother-n-law who have been together for 10 years. They never used any protection and until recently never got pregnant. At one point they used those kits with no avail. They finally gave up and tried foster care, thinking something was wrong with one of them. A year after that, they got pregnant!!! It's just timing. Good luck.
2006-11-08 09:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by jonesin_am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not able to tell you why you haven't gotten pregnant yet but I thought I would just share with you a case of a friend of mine who was in the same situation and nothing was wrong with either her husband or herself. As her doctor explained it, conception is all down to nature. Consequently, whilst we think we have control over our fertility and so many people seem to fall pregnant so eaily, there are others who take longer - sometimes years longer. It's not that they're any less fertile or healthy, it's just that a physcial manifestation didn't occur because whatever elements are involved were not favourable at that time. I know how frustrated and disappointed you must constantly feel but if your Doctor has advised you have no fertility issues, then it really is a matter of timing. It will happen for you, but perhaps try focusing on another area of your life until nature decides the time is right. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-08 10:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went through a similar situation thing. But my doctor said I didnt ovulate regularly. It could be that you may not ovulate when you think you do, It could be earlier or later in your cycle. Ovulation predictor kits dont alway work correctly. My doctor finally put me on Clomid and I conceived in 2 months. I have a 1 year old and one on the way. You didnt say if you had tried any fertility drugs yet but If not definitely give them a try. Clomid is a low dose medication, less side effects and less chance of multiple births. And after a while if that doesnt work usually after a few months of trying the doctor can bump you up to a higher dose medication. Hope this helps and good luck to you!!
2006-11-08 09:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have probably heard this a million times, but quit trying. Stop the stress of trying to concieve and all the pressure you both put on yourselves.
You and your husband need to go on a little vacation, rent a room in a hotel, don't think about babies or making them and have some time alone together. Enjoy each other. Make it a care free weekend alone.
When you stress out and put pressure on yourself and partner you are actually lowering your chances of getting pregnant. Your partners sperm won't be as potent and your cervical mucus won't be of the best quality. Make being intimate about the two of you and not just an acted to make a baby.
When the time is right it will happen.
2006-11-08 09:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all the pressure of trying hinders conception. Try not to put too much emphasis on testing for ovulation etc as this makes the whole thing more stressful - you should know by now the approximate time that you ovulate in your cycle (usually 12 to 16 days after the first day of your previous period. So just aim to have sex every 2 days stating at day 10 and try to keep it from getting too 'mechanical' if you know what I mean.
Good luck
2006-11-08 09:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably over stressing about it and causing a problem by doing so. I have a friend that is 5 months pregnant. She and her husband tried for 4 years and had started the adoption classes because had given up on having their own when she found out she was pregnant. Don't worry about it all the time and I know that is easier said than done but I know that it does help some couples.
2006-11-08 09:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband use a hot tub at all? If so tell him not to use one for about a week before you ovulate because there is a link bewtween the heat of the water and lower sperm count...which is temporary. Also try not to have sex too often..Start about 10 days after the first day of your last period and have sex every other day and continue through day 16. Good luck to you.
2006-11-08 09:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that got pregnant with triplets on one cycle of Clomid. She had been TTC for about 2 years (she already had two sons) and used the fertility drug as an absolute last resort.
You and your husband should investigate trying a fertility drug, talk to your doctor and find out more. Just know that your chances of having multiples is much higher, but, you could have your dream child(ren)!
2006-11-08 09:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting some natural progesterone cream. You can find it a GNC and walmart, and almost every natural store. It is a cream that you rub a small amount of onto any soft tissue area of your body. You do this for 21 days, and then stop for 7. During the 7 days you are off of it, you will get your period. THis cream contains a natural version of the hormone, Progesterone", that causes you to ovulate. I hope this works for you. I know how stressful it can be to have negative after negative pergnancy test. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-08 09:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what the problem is but sometimes stressing makes if difficult to get pregent. Maybe you could try destressing. Plan in advance a very romantic time to spend with your husband. And just spend time having fun before jumping into the bed. Have fun.
Have you ever thought about adopting or being a foster parent? Their are many children who could use a good home with loving parents.
2006-11-08 09:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by autumn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋