we have been together on and off for three years and if it is a bad break up than he wont help us at all i want to know how to make him not want to be with me but just b e my friend!! please help
2006-11-08 08:37:04 · 16 answers · asked by Ashley I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Won't happen. Sorry if you want to make a guy who loves you break up with you, it will get really messy. You won't be able to keep his respect because in order to do that you'll have to be nasty enough for him to hate you.
How can you manage respectability in that? Just tell him that you want to move on and that you don't want a future with him. He will have to respect that. Making him break up with you will get you all the hate you want.
Good luck!
2006-11-08 08:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Big Marc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel 'cause some guys are just assholes and won't want to help you and the baby if you two are not together but you can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do.You need to tell him the truth about why you don't want to be with him and then take his *** to court if he don't want to help you out.It's his kid too and i hate guys who feel that it's not their responsiblity to provide for their child.I'm going through a similar situation right now,email me and we can talk more.
2006-11-08 16:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by serenity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him, why are you trying to make him break up with you? Why don't you just break up with him? It is never a good idea to play games, especially since there is a child involved.
2006-11-08 16:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him for child support first...he still needs to take care of the kids with or without you.Then, you just tell him you don't want to be with him...but I hope your kids won't be the ones to pay the price.
2006-11-08 16:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you want a nice break up so that he can help you and your children, once you breakup he has no obligation to support you just the children. why don't you work on an education so that you can be self sufficient and that way you dont have to get Government assistance like most divorced women.
2006-11-08 16:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
my suggestion is to break up w/ him (keep it real) about why; and if he doesnt do what he is supposed to do, take him to the judge for child support. be civil about the situation and just let him know the deal
2006-11-08 16:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Say It Again M'am 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be better for the baby if daddy stayed and married you. Children from one parent homes get into all kinds of trouble, fall into greater poverty and a greater risk of criminal activity. You need to straighten out your relationship with him and marry him. You need to start attending a bible believing church to get help and a firm foundation to live your life.
for encouragement, listen to ttb.org.
2006-11-08 16:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So if I understand you right you want advice from us on how to manipulate him into leaving you so that you won't be the bad guy here, & then you can feel justified in demanding child support from him. Is that right?
Instead of being so manipulative, why don't you just take charge of your own life, & leave him if you don't want to be with him anymore.
If you want to stay friends with him, then leave him but just don't do it in an angry way.
2006-11-08 16:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Grow up. Your baby needs his daddy. Get married already and give the kid a name.
2006-11-08 16:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you can't look him in the eye and tell him the truth respectfully, then how do you expect him to respect you?
2006-11-08 16:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋