when u have a physical the look at u down there (im a girl) and i was wondering if i could ask for a female docter if i have male im very nervouse because im afraid that the will say some things wrong with me down there ive never had sex but got fingerd down there can the tell my mom? can the even find out? does my mom have to be in the room ? what happens ive had a physical before but they never looked at me down there please no mean answers im nerves and kind of scared!
2006-11-08 08:34:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well, since you're so young, you will probably have to tell your mom you would like a female doctor (since she probably make the appointments). NOt every office has male and female doctors, so that is your best bet. Just explain to her that you would feel more comfortable with a female doctor. I'm sure she would understand.
I don't know what kind of physical you are going in for, but unless it is specifically planned that you will have a pap smear or pelvic exam, the doctor probably won't do any kind of exam "down there". You can absolutely ask your mom not to come in with you, but she may come in anyway.
Don't be so nervous. If you do have a pelvic exam, it's fast, painless, and really not a big deal. Just explain your wishes to your mom and I'm sure she will understand. Good luck and calm down.
2006-11-08 08:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' worry, if you are virgin they won't be able to tell that you have messed around. You can definitley request a female doctor. You should have your mother there with you so that she can make you feel comfortable. Especially if this is your first time. The docotor may ask if you are sexually active but if this is a physical then they wont check your vaginal area. If this a gynocological visit that that is different and they probably will. If that is the case then your mom does not have to be there and you can request privacy if you want, but I think it is a good thing for your mom to be there to support you. Doctors are really good at asking you questions and making you feel comfortable. Plus this may be a good time for you and your mom to start talking about your body and sex in an environment that you would feel comfortable. Good luck!
2006-11-08 16:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Making Them Listen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The doctor cannot tell if you have had sex or been fingered before as you hymen can easily get broken from things like playing sports or horseback riding or other things. When a doc does a pelvic exam he/she is merely checking for any abnormalities or problems. You do not need your mother in the room but if you are younger you may want her there if you are close with her. Yes you can request a female doc but just remember that whether it is male or female the doc has been trained to do a job and he has seen it all before and heard it all before.
2006-11-08 16:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can ask for a female doctor if you'd be more comfortable with a woman. They won't be able to tell if you've been fingered and even if they could for some reason, it wouldn't be a big deal and they wouldn't have to tell your mom. What goes on between you and your doctor is confidental so your doctor doesn't have to tell your mom anything that you don't want her to know. Also your mom doesn't have to be in the room but if you want her to, she can.
Hope all goes well!
2006-11-08 16:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by kissmeimurpostman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes of coarse you can ask for a female doctor if you feel uncomfortable and the doctor won't be able to tell that you have been fingered.If you think that they will notice that your hyme is broken, well they won't, and even if they did notice, which they won't be able to, it could've been for other reasons...like if you used a tampon or something. And if you don't feel comfortable having your parent in then I'm sure they don't have to come in.
2006-11-08 17:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you can ask for a female doctor. its YOUR body...
2006-11-08 16:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by eastcoastrockerdude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋