am i being unreasonable?

Question

im 30 weeks pregnant and me and my boyfriend still live with his parents.Im desperate for a place of r own but he says hes not ready and that we cant afford it. How can I convince him to move out. do you think im being selfish? ijust want us to have a home of our own,and privacy is that too much to ask...help

Answer 1

If you cannot afford a home, how will you be able to afford to raise a child? I hope he has a job to support you. I do not think you are being unreasonable. If he will not work with you to move out, you could look into low income housing. Most cities have a program to help single parents get into affordable housing.

Answer 2

I think that you are both right. It is definitely important to have your own space when you are starting a family. I'm sure it's not ideal for your "in-laws" to share their home either, but they are being very generous to do so. If you can't afford your own home right away, maybe there are other things you can do to survive living there in the meantime. Is there a room somewhere in his parents house that you can make off limits during certain times to everyone else except for you, your boyfriend, and the baby? Maybe you can arrange one night a week for you guys to have the house to yourselves, and vice-versa. Maybe you and your boyfriend could set a reasonable deadline to move out, when you have saved up enough money to buy your own place. I know that it will be hard now, but it will be a great opportunity to save some money and find the house of your dreams a little further down the line instead of the house that you may or may not be able to afford at this moment. Plus, think of it this way: living with experienced parents is very helpful! You are going to need the extra set of hands when the baby finally arrives! I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 3

No you are not being unreasanable. It is perfectly normal to want a home of your own to start a family in. If he can't afford it he can't afford it, As long as thats the reason and he is not just staying for his own reasons. My parents lived with my moms parents the first few years of their marrage. They were living there when they had my older sister. They now have there own house and seven kids-they have been married for 20 years now. My point is that if you are patient and you and your bf are ready to go to the next level then it will happen.

Answer 4

No, you are not unreasonable in wanting that, but it's an unreasonable request if you as a couple cannot afford it.

If money is an issue now, it's going to be a big one when the baby is born. Diapers cost money and babies use a lot of them.

Answer 5

You're not being unreasonable. We were in a similar situation with our first child. He may be feeling the financial pressure of the coming birth. Be patient but firm with him. Tell him exactly how you feel.

Answer 6

He was ready to have a baby w/you he should be ready to take responsibility for his family! Keep telling him how important it is to you if he really is a man he'll step up to the plate and provide for his family! Good luck!

Answer 7

You deserve a place of your own definitely, but if he's not ready, you can't force him. The problem is he doesn't want to leave his parents - and he might not ever change his mind.

Answer 8

do it without him if you feel like you need privacy then go out and get your own place and leave him right there with his momma.

Answer 9

No you are not being selfish,,you should have a home for your family

Answer 10

You should get married and give your kid a name. Your boyfriend is a loser and wants to live off mommy and daddy.