I am 39 and have as much sexual drive as I had in my teens. My wife who is 38 said that it is time to stop having sex because we are in our late 30's. I can't believe this is true for everyone.
2006-11-08 08:26:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Brainsandbeauty you offering to help? LOL
2006-11-08 14:14:49 · update #1
She obviously needs help with serious issue(s) that are clouding her perception of what constitutes a normal, healthy relationship (you both need the help to save your marriage because if your libido is high there's a good chance you'll eventually seek sex elsewhere and your marriage will fall apart). My partner and I are in our mid 50's and enjoy a very active, fulfilling sex life. There is no time to 'stop having sex' because of age. Some people lose interest in varying degrees as they age, and I think that is considered normal, but to suddenly want to stop is likely an indication of something your wife is either in denial about or isn't aware of. There are many possible reasons for disinterest in sex - fatigue, medications, hormones, problems in your relationship, etc. The best thing you can do for her and for your marriage is to seek professional help - first a doctor to investigate physical causes and perhaps then a therapist if a physical cause can't be identified - and to work together on rebuilding a fulfilling intimate life.
2006-11-08 08:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Essmi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? It's not true for anyone. There's no such thing as a time to stop having sex. Why in God's name would two healthy people in their 30s stop having sex? Great sex is one of the reasons to celebrate life. Unless your wife never liked it and is just using this as an excuse.
2006-11-08 08:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon that in marriage one spouse is more interested in sex than the other.The following are survey result of sex frequency
No sex in past year 3.7%
No sex in past month 13.6%
Once or twice per month 20.1%
Once of twice per week 27.4% your frequency in the middle
Three to five times per week 18.5%
Five to six times per week 5.5% This what you used to do.
Daily 2.6%
More than daily 3.2%
She is wrong successful loving couple have sex into late sixties or even later.
I think that your wife might developing Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD). The person with ISD fails to initiate or respond to their partner's desire for sexual activity.
ISD is a very common sexual disorder. The most common cause of ISD seems to be relationship problems wherein one partner does not feel emotionally intimate or close to their mate.
Communication problems, health problems such as depression, insomnia, excessive stress.
Treatment is required by the professional therapist and it depends on the eliminating causes listed above.
2006-11-08 08:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds crazy but maybe she should consider going to a doctor for hormone pills. woman offen have trouble in this area in the late 30s (so ive heard) stress of everyday hectic life can also cause a loss of interest perhaps a nice night out or even a candle light dinner at home with out the kids will do the trick. ofcourse its your job to do the cooking. haha
2006-11-08 08:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh crap, there's an age limit for sex?
Your wife is a bit young to not want to have sex. Perhaps she's having some kind of hormonal difficulties? I was always lead to believe that our sex drive peaked in our later years. PLEASE IT CAN"T BE A LIE! Are there other things going on that would lead her not to want to have sex?
Hope she changes her mind about things soon. Good Luck.
2006-11-08 08:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You ask ..Is this bad? Your wife wants to stop having sex and her excuse is: because you are both in your 30's----Sounds bad, sounds very, very bad to me! Sounds very bad FOR YOU! Sounds like a crock to me. Healthy men and woman can have sex as often as they want and can into their 90's...you're never too old to have sex as long as you have a willing partner. It sounds like your wife skipped midlife crisis and is heading straight to medicare and the rest home. What's a stallion like you to do?
2006-11-08 13:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is. How come she doesn't want to have sex?? I am only 29 and I just reaching my sexual peak so I can't image going a day with out it!!!
2006-11-08 09:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Rican Princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is something wrong there she just does not want to thave sex with you maybe she is no longer sexually attracted to you
thats something the two of you need to sit down and talk about and be honest with each other.
2006-11-08 08:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by AlishaM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me that is just wrong I would tell her to talk with someone about her thoughts on this if this is how she feels then well man I sorry for you.
2006-11-08 09:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude...i think its true about women. I'm 44 and date women in their 20's and 30's who sitll lkie it. OK not all olser women get tired of it......but it goes up dramatically.
2006-11-08 08:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋