I found out my husband lied about some money he spent. I confronted him and we split for about one week, he called and said he was so sorry and he would never do it again. Five days later he went on a business trip and while there he had a college student go to his room and paid her $200.00. I found out, he said he didn't do anything with her and just sent her away. She didn't even enter his room according to him. Should I believe him and try to work our marriage out? We have been married only 3 years. We are senior citizens not kids. Please give me your advice. My whole world has fallen apart.
2006-11-08 08:25:56 · 18 answers · asked by metro6578 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know what. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Lies are lies, it does not matter what they are about. It appears like he has some bad habits. I don't think you should have to deal with that in your life. Ditch him and find someone who will treat you like a queen!
2006-11-08 08:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my heart goese out to u .i will keep it real there is no way on this GODS green earth that he is not creeping well its not even creeping hes doing it out in the open tell me what man gives a young GIRL $200.00 and she dont even come in the room? so he has it like that just to throw away $$$$ like that? come on just because u love him that dont make u a fool. so tell him to his face that he is a lier!!!!!!!!! this would not even fly if u threw it off the mountain top. hes cheating and u deserve better than an old man trying to regain his lost youth. dont be a fool any more. hes cheating and since hes paying for it u should get ur u know what chseck there is aids and stds out there especially when he is paying to get laid. cash out while u have the strenght to so u can start the healing process. u know in ur heart that hes cheating u just needed some1 who dont know u to help u see the light. well the lights are on n hubby has gotton caught in the lights with his you know what in that girls mouth. sorry but ma'ma u need to kick his high paying prosututing behind to divorce court. check bank statment oh u need to start saving up money and transfer money from his account to urs. now if u r not going to let him go then u will be unhappy cause u will always be thinking that when hes out taking care of bussiness hes really out getting laid. and thats what he will be doing besides if he did it once he will do it again. just think do u want to be on the news saying that u kill him
2006-11-08 08:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why was she there? why did he give her $200? what happend to the money the first time? Sounds like he is playing around and lying to you about it. It does not matter if you are senior citizens, or how long you've been married. These are real trust issues. He is playing you for a fool. DUMP HIM GURL! I am sorry for your broken heart, no one deserves this, but get out now so you can have the chance of finding someone you deserve. *HUG*
2006-11-08 08:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I wouldn't believe it. $200 and she didn't even enter the room? And this was on top of the money he previously spent? it shows a pattern of dishonest behavior, to say the least. What does he say when you attempt to talk to him about this? I wouldn't try to work the marriage out on your own - maybe counseling. If he's being dishonest about the money, what else is he being dishonest about? You need to decide what you will and will not tolerate. Frankly, you deserve someone who treats you with respect. He isn't.
2006-11-08 08:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answerer, It seems that if you caught him out for a lie once then again and when does it stop. Its time to stop the lies and talk you may be able to solve your problems and get back on track. Perhaps it might be time to take a break.
Good luck for the future what ever it may bring.
2006-11-08 08:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure,He gave her $200.00 and sent her away.How did she get the money?Was she standing at the doorway and he handed the money to her and she just went away?Plus,he never said that he didn't give it to her.Was he paying for her books for class?Your whole world has not fallen apart.As you said,your not kids,so that must mean your a mature adult.Believe him if you like,but you let him get away with that,he'll do it again and again.
2006-11-08 14:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So not only did he lie but he cheated. Being that you are senior citizens and not kids he definitely should have known better. You cant change a person and you sure as hell cant change a senior citizen. Your leaving yourself open to getting std's from him. I wouldn't try to save it.
2006-11-08 08:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no... You don't BELIEVE that DO YOU????
OMG>>>> I think there is some real crap going on.
I am sorry.... but FIND OUT THE TRUTH if you can.... then you can decide more clearly what to do. Don't compromise your standards. He sounds like he is into some really bad stuff...
Don't be a fool.
2006-11-08 08:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was a Hooker, for $200, he didn't get much. It sounds like he might have a Sex Addiction. Treated, a 12 step program and a lot of patience is required.
2006-11-08 08:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by rilindy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would he pay $200 for a college student to come to his room? He definitely did something with her; she might have been a stripper or a hooker. Something's not right with that.
2006-11-08 08:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋