why hasnt he told his family?

Question

im 30 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend STILL hasnt told his family. We are living with his mum and dad and its very worrying that none of his family know yet! Why do you think he's left it so late??

Answer 1

shouldnt you be asking HIM why?

Answer 2

Can't they see that you are pregnant yet? How old are you? Is he worried that his parents will kick you both out when they find out? Maybe he is worried about having enough money. If he thinks they will be happy about it, which it doesn't seem likely or he would've told them. There are some really neat ways to break the news to them. They are going to know sooner or later. You are showing and going to bring home a baby. If I was in your place I would have a serious talk with my boyfriend. I would tell him that we need to go together and talk with his parents. Maybe going to a nice restrurant would be the answer. Over a nice casual meal tell them that they are going to be grandparents. You need to tell them now so that they have time to get used to the idea of the baby before the baby gets here. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

He might not be ready to tell them, granted, if you're 30 weeks pregnant then they're going to figure it out soon enough as is. Have you talked to him about having the baby? If he's excited about having the baby then the news needs to be said but, it could be that he's not sure how they'll take it.
I'd suggest talking to him about it and asking him why he hasn't spoken to them yet. Let him know that its bothering you since you are a part of his family and you want the child to be part of the family once its born and not be a surprise to them.

Answer 4

My goodness, 30 weeks? You cant be showing very much then for noone to notice. I am suprised you are not so angry with your boyfriend for not wanting to tell his parents. Why do you think is the reason? Shyness, scared they are going to shout? My opinion is he should have told them long ago. He should be proud you are carrying their grandchild. I say, stand up and be a man! He helped put the baby there, he should stand up and look after you and tell them! I think if it was me and my partner had not told his parents by at the most 20 weeks, then i would think of leaving and having it out with him.

All the best and congrats on your pregnancy x

Answer 5

Whatever I might think would only be an assumption and probably one you've already considered. If you want to KNOW instead of assuming (and maybe wrongly), then you need to ask him in a way that he is likely to tell you the truth.

I kind of want to be a smatass and say that if his parents don't know and don't suspect that you're pregnant, that maybe he's just as clueless if you haven't come out and told him yourself already, which would explain why he hasn't told them.

Edit: You know, the more I think about this the more I wonder just how healthy your baby is. Unless you were rather overweight to begin with, then you would more than likely show signs that you are pregnant, if it's a healthy pregnancy.

Answer 6

Gee, hes leaving it a bit late isnt he? What about all the planning for cribs and clothes and things like that. It is pretty important your boyfriend tell his family because you havent got too long to go until the baby is born and you need to start getting everything together. Just ask him how he plans on getting stuff ready for the baby and his parents don't even know. I think its getting to the critical stage, and these people are going to be granparents...maybe they would like to buy things for the baby too. Maybe they would be very excited at their grandchild coming into the world. I guess it depends on how good a relationship you have with his parents, but I would be tempted to sit down with his mother and tell her you are pregnant...woman to woman. You cannot change what is about to happen, and this is your baby too and you are living with your baby's grandparents...I think they have a right to know....it is an exciting time for everyone, them too and I think your boyfriend is being a little silly because he needs to give them time to get used to the concept about having a grandchild in the family. I wouldnt wait too much longer before I told them myself. Maybe you need to sit your boyfriend down and tell him how silly he is being. He is certainly not being fair to his parents, neither is he being fair to your or your baby. Talk to him....tell him it is time....well and trully time. The parents need to know today, not tomorrow, not when the baby is born...today to allow them to plan the birth of their grandchild.

Answer 7

I too think its strange they don't know if you're living there. Hell, my mans parents figured it out without us telling them when I'm only about 1 month along.
Your guy is obviously scared. But I would by-pass him all together and tell them yourself. He needs to own up to what he helped do. If you or he feels that his parents aren't that good of people then you should have a back-up home, and a ride to escape, when you tell them. If they ask to have a paternity test done, DON'T TAKE OFFENSE!!! It's a shock to everyone, and they're really just looking out for their boy. You have nothing to lose from it anyway, and you'll look better to them for taking it so adult like.

I hope they're good people and you get welcomed into the family. And I hope all goes well. But if mister man can't do it, you should.

Answer 8

I don't know why since you are living with him- I got pregnant, and someone told my ex that it was not his (which it was) and he told his parents and sister, b/c I was showing, yet did not tell anyone else- he was waiting on a paternity test....In fact our son was a month old, and he took him to his grandparents, and he had family members coming in, and saw him holding his son, when they had no clue he had a son.

I would talk to him, it might be something that you are not aware of that could be bothering him, yet I know how it feels to not have anyone know- it's hard b/c you are wanting to talk to people about it, and can't because they have no clue.....

Answer 9

If you're living with them I'm fairly certain they know by now. It's his responsibility to tell them though, sit him down and ask him why, tell him that's ridiculous and he needs to grow up. Maybe he's just embarassed to be starting a family and not be able to support you guys by himself, such as a place to live and so forth. Men get this macho complex when their women are pregnant and if they can't do it all it's really a blow to the ego. Talk to him about it, it'll be okay :)

Answer 10

I think he's scared of how his family will react. Some men are chicken s**t when it comes to confronting others, specially family. However, if you're already living with them, I don't see what the big deal is. I'm sure everyone eventually saw it coming. So, talk to your bf and see what the hold up is. If you wait any longer, his family might be offended that you waited so long to tell them, considering you're already almost at the end of your pregnancy.

Answer 11

No matter how old you are you still want approval from your parents.. and you don't want to let him down so that may be why... or he may be thinking he isn't going to take the responsiblity of the child so why bother telling the parents.. what you need to do is confront him, then if that doesn't work as akward as its going to be one day when he's out of the room tell his mom or day be like you know i have something that may shock you but i just need to tell you. I did that... my situation was a little different but after the boy didn't want to tell I did. you need to figure out are you both in love or just you with him....