My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for a while now. I have some fertility problems, but basically my reprodtive organs are all healthy. But not pregnant yet.
One of my closes friends called me to tell me that she is pregnant, and is planning on terminating the pregancy. She already has 2 kids, and she and her husband do not have very stable jobs at this time. I have no children. I feel for her, but I am also so mad at her. I am feeling sorry for myself. I would never say anything to her, she has her own probs to deal with. But am I selfish for me angry with her?
2006-11-08 08:10:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It's not really selfishness, its just wanting to have what she has. Not jealousy but not like you don't care. It's a touchy situation wanting a baby and not having had one yet. You ever seem to think that everyone else around you is getting pregnant and you just seem to not be able to? I've felt that way, but need to realize that most of the couples you see even at the grocery store could be having the same trobles concieving as you are.. There is a great website you can join that helps out women who are TTC, pregnant, and jusdt becoming mothers... I'm part of it and think you should check it out.
God Bless!
2006-11-08 08:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Allycea's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. As long as you don't state how you feel to her in a rude manner at some point then you're good. I get frustrated when I see this as well. If they didn't have stable jobs and couldn't care for a child, they should've take the necessary precautions to not get pregnant. It's not the unborn baby's fault the parents were careless.
2006-11-08 08:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your so called friend has the problem, does she know you are trying to get pregnant, if so, for her to tell you that then she is not a real friend. anyway no you are not selfish about that just angry that you are not pregnant yet but don't worry about anything just keep trying, it is alot of fun, and will happen for you and he.
2006-11-08 09:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by outdoors 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way that's not selfish that situation annoys me so much she already has 2 kids I'm sorry but one more isn't goign to affect them all THAT much, a termination will hit her real hard.
I'd be so mad if I were you, maybe you should lock her up so she can't terminate then steal her baby at the end.
2006-11-08 08:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. I am always surprised when I hear a story of someone considering an abortion. Especially in the case of your friend who is thinking of it becasue it is not convient at this moment. I do not know how close you are to her, but if she was a true friend, knowing that you are struggling to concieve, she wouldn't have said anything reagrding her idea of abortion. She is the selfish one. Not you. Your feelings are normal. Take care and best of luck to you and your family.
2006-11-08 08:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I feel the same way. Women that really want kids and would be a wonderful mother are the ones with problems. Women that don't wnat kids or whatever seem to keep popping them out and not taking care of them.
2006-11-08 08:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are being selfish i just think you are hurt because you can't have your own babies. i think that you should try to be more sensitive to the fact that your friend is having her pregnancy terminated. if though you are going through what you are going through . your time will come just keep praying and believing and you will have that baby of yours and when that day does come you'll have that friend right there being happy for you.
2006-11-08 08:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by erica c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are dealing with your own problems and it is natural to feel that way. Dont ruin a friendship over it, but you are entitled to feel angry at the situation. I would be too.
2006-11-08 08:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT AT ALL! Your feelings are your feelings, and unfortunatly that is where it ends. You can be mad at her but ultimatly it is her decision.
I understand where you are coming from, after my first miscarriage a friend of mine terminated a pregnancy and i was seeing red. it wasn't fair that she was taking for granted what was so precious and stolen from me. (i guess no real advice here but definitely sympathy!!) :)
2006-11-08 08:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your being selfish at all..its disgusts me that people use abortion as a form of birthcontrol when they're lots of people out there who would do anything to have their own child.
2006-11-08 08:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋