we have my step son 4 days a week, We switch on saturdays she is court ordered to have him until 5 but she is always bringing him b/w 2-4, It is not that i mind i love him to death but she leaves him with her mother at least one night every 3 days she has him.It's like she doesn't want him around? Should we say something about her bringing him home early?
2006-11-08 08:10:22 · 12 answers · asked by 21&lovinit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, why say somthing, she sounds like she isn't ready to be a mother. At least when she brings him back early, you know he's safe. Don't worry about it, just love your step son.
2006-11-08 08:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would confront her about it. I would let her know that she isn't standing up to her end of the parental agreement and she's making things alot harder than they need to be. I would also tell her that I don't mind getting him early, but I would like to be notified in advance about it. When you speak to her, try to do it in a way that won't be offensive to her. Invite her over for lunch oneday or something like that and just sit down and have a talk with her, without the other parent or child around. Women seem to get a lot more done when they are alone, without an audience. Good luck.
2006-11-08 16:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, your going to have to in order for her to start being a responsible mom.
You can discuss this with her in a civil tone and manner. Remind her of the times set by the courts. Tell her that a child needs as many minutes, hours, days or months to truly bond with their parents. Tell her you feel her child needs this time the courts have set.
IF she doesn't seem to comprehend, then try not being there the before the time she is suppose to return.
Good luck.
2006-11-08 16:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for your stepson. Who cares what she does? This child needs a mother. His mother doesn't need another mother she has one. If she can't be there for her son then she loses. Maybe not today but one day she will lose and if you take care of him you will win his heart and all his love as his mother (not step-mother)! By the time she figures this out it will be too late. You won't regret that. You cannot make her do anything she doesn't want to do. THINK ABOUT THE CHILD!
2006-11-08 16:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up it is court order by a judge I can see things come up every now and then but come on if that does not work go back to court.
2006-11-08 16:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he sad because of this? Talk with him about it see how he feels. If he doesn't mind and would rather be with you and your husband I wouldn't push the issue it will only cause unwanted stress. She is portraying an unfit mother, seems like she doesn't care or has (what she thinks) are better things to do. Talk to her too without him around. Its an issue you might want to address. If she doesn't want him around and that is really her problem, she shouldn't see him at all, he deserves to be loved unconditionally. God Bless!!
2006-11-08 16:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you can force her to be a mother. If she cares this little for the kid, it is probably best for your child that she bring him to your house early. A child does not want to feel as though he is a burden, and it sounds like she is giving off that impression.
2006-11-08 16:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. If ever you are going for custody of the child then you should be recording ever time she returns him early etc. Sounds like this woman is in desperate need for some type of parenting course.
2006-11-08 16:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her, ask her if she wants to be with him, not mention to her the "bringing the son early" unless its necessary. Maybe she is bringing the kid early for some other reasons and its not that she doesnt want to have him
2006-11-08 16:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by kathernva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,say something to her,and her case worker.
2006-11-08 22:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋