My friend thinks she pregnant and she 16 teen her mom told her that if she is she cant keep it. we dont see why she gose to school has a job and all that good stuff in me and her eyes we think she ready what do you think.and i told if if she need anything i would be there 4 her more than i am now cuz i have a job 2
2006-11-08 08:08:09 · 24 answers · asked by ,Tc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Her mother cannot legally make her have an abortion.
2006-11-08 08:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i am against abortions all together... but thats not the issue. The issue is that her mom technically has the right to see that her daughter gets the medical attention she sees fit. Although i cannot imagine how a mother would force her daughter to kill her own child! I think it is outrageous. But your friend really needs to keep in mind that at any time having a baby is stressful, especially having a baby as a teenager. (you didn;t say anything about the baby's father) It's a very hard thing to have a baby all alone as a teen without the support of your family... You friend should look into all of her options (including adoption) maybe you and your friend should go to a family planning clinic together (so you can support her) and discuss the exact situation with someone trained to help in such situations. I think it is very courageous that you are willing to help your friend, and that she believes she can handle it...
good luck to the both of you
2006-11-08 16:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there just isn't any 16 year old on earth that is really ready for a baby.....BUT>>>there are many out there who make due with what they have and are good parents. (I know because I was one of them)
But it was a very hard struggle and it took a long time to make it where I am today. (I am 30 now) I have never regretted my children, but I do know that if I had waited until I was older, I wouldn't have had to struggle as much and my life would have been better sooner.
Her mother cannot make that decision for her...but she does have a valid point. That is her baby...having a baby. That is a hard thing to deal with.
Just continue to be her friend...and support her if she decides to have the baby...but remember that she is only 16...not even old enough to vote yet or even but spray paint!! Her mother will be the one who is ultimately resposible for that child...because her daughter is still a child.
Send her my luck!
2006-11-08 16:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but at 16 she's not ready for all that responsiblity. I was 17, so I know how she feels. But, it's a lot more than you or she thinks it it.
BUT, I think making her have an abortion isn't the way to go. There are so many families out there who can't have children that would take such good care of the baby.
If she is pregnant, maybe she should think about adoption rather than abortion.
2006-11-08 16:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by kara3967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully this bad situation will warn others of how pre-marital sex is wrong socially and morally. Not only is she bieng hurt, but you and her family is also. No amount of suffering can take away the right of the baby to live, and though she made a mistake in the past, her character can be shown in the decisions she decides to make in the future. She can prove to have integrity and be a guardian of human dignity if she gives this child its deserved right to live. Hopefully she will not let her mother or society to tell her that her comfort is more important than her child's life. Also, the aftermath of the abortion on her would be devastating.
2006-11-08 16:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also got pregnant at sixteen and believe me your friend is not the first and she difinitely won't be the last and her mom sholud not even encourage her to have an abortion stuff happens , people make mistakes> Ithink she should continue to go to school , that is very important because she needs that education so she can have a good job to take care of that baby. Yoi being her friend should help her as much as you can, when you do good good will always follow you.
2006-11-08 16:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by cutecarribbeanbutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who got pregnant when she was 16 and her mom forced her to have an abortion. She's in her 40's now so I'm sure that the laws have changed. She was really traumatized by it and still doesn't talk to her mother.
I'm pretty sure that no one can force another person to have an abortion these days.
2006-11-08 16:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by herdoula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is not ready for a baby, and her mother is only trying to do what is best for her and the baby. Being pregnant is NOT fun, and haveing a child born is NOT just 'playing house'. Its more serious then that, there is alot to go through. Sleepless nights, the baby crying and you not knowing why and getting scared and agervated and frustrated. Feeding the baby, changeing the baby, doctor appointments, day care, bathes, the expences of diapers, diaper wipes, food, toys, baby furniture, baby wash clothes, diaper bags, bottles, shoes, clothes, and the list goes on. Its scary to have a baby, even for us adults. But our bodies are ready, our emotions are ready. She is 16 yrs old and she is NOT ready for this at all. She never should have had sex and gave that young boy her virginity. He won't be there for the baby. If she keeps it she will be alone. Her mother is trying to spare her from all of this, and knows that her herself can't afford and can't always be there and won't always be there for her grandchild. Trust me, this dicision is as hard for her mother as it is for her to hear her mother say these things. Blessed be to you and your friend.
2006-11-08 16:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I no you don't want to hear this but she isn't ready for a baby she ts a baby her self.I had a baby at 18 and I was so not ready .Then had another baby at 28 then I was ready I had the running out of me and I had more penchants for a baby.If she wants to keep the baby tell her to marry the boy then her mother can't make her do something she doesn't want to do.
2006-11-08 16:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it may not be her decision. I would say (I know you won't like the sound of this) that because her mother would be financially burdened (insurance, clothes, house) it should mostly be up to her. If your friend can truly go off on her own and really wants that type of life that it would give her then that is up to her, she is old enough to leave school but she is not legally an adult.
2006-11-08 16:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mother can't physically make her have an abortion. It is her decision, no one Else's. So if she wants to keep the baby then she can keep it. Her mother may not like it and may kick her out but their are plenty of places for her to go.
2006-11-08 16:12:44 · answer #11 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋