My husband isn't satisfing me in bed and I don't know what to do about it. Here's the deal, he has a nice sized package but he just doesn't last long at all! He may be able to pull off about 3 minutes at the most. Now if he's been drinking, then I'll more than likely get about 5-7 minutes. He's always been like this since we first met and I am sooooooooo tired of having to sneak off to the bathroom to reach my climax. It wouldn't be so bad if he tried to make sure I was satisfied afterwards, but he doesn't. He just rolls over and goes to sleep.
I need any and all suggestions on what I should do. I want to talk to him about it, but I'm scared that I'll hurt his feelings or something. I've always thought about just getting on top of him when he gets finished and doing something to get it back up again, but he's made the comment "I'm done for the night" and I don't know if he was just joking when he said that or if he was serios. Please help me with this one! Thank you:)
2006-11-08 07:59:03 · 14 answers · asked by wilsonhutchison04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him to wear a condom.
Relieve himself 10 minutes prior.
c ock ring
blurt out "rosanne arnold licking oprah winfrey!!" when u think hes about to climax
good luck
2006-11-08 08:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by aligrespeq 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say he's done this ever since you met him? Why would you marry someone that didn't satisfy you? The sex issues should have been worked out WAY before the marraige came into the picture. You should not be worried at all about hurting his feelings. He's been getting a free ride from you as long as he's been with you. You need to tell him he's not getting you off. You should have had that talk with him ages ago.
2006-11-08 16:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not him not lasting very long, the problem is that he doesn't seem to care about your satisfaction, or perhaps he's simply inexperienced in sex and doesn't know jack squat about female anatomy and physiology. In either case, I don't think it would hurt to bring it up in a conversation and let him know (gently) what your needs are. Intercourse is not the only way to get you off (in fact, many women do not climax on intercourse alone); most guys I've ever been with will take care of the lady first, and then finish off with the actual intercourse. Tell him what you like; he can use his hands, or go oral. There's nothing wrong in sharing your desires in a form of gentle suggesstion.
2006-11-08 16:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should be honest with him. Tell him you need to be satisfied also. Do you ever use toys? How about go to the adult toy store and find something together. My first thing I got is called a thrill ring and my husband really enjoyed that so did I. It is a ring that goes over him and will make him last longer and it vibrates and has tentacles that vibrate over your spot that helps you reach yours faster. Try something like that!
2006-11-08 16:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by sabrina c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure how you can communicate this to him since he seems to not take hints too well, but what he needs to do is more foreplay, to stimulate you so that actually you climax even before intercourse. It's much easier for you to have a multiple orgasm than for him, and your orgasms likely would last longer if he got you up there before getting in. I know this works for people who don't last long. if he gets you very aroused, it's much more pleasurable for him too.
Now about actually getting him to do this... I dunno... maybe he needs to be slapped with a large trout. Somebody please knock some sense into that guy.
2006-11-08 16:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More foreplay for you before the actual intercourse. Talk to him tell him what you like, where you want to be touched, how you want to be touched you might keep him hot so he can keep it up. Get some toys let him use them on you might get real exciting!! Have fun!
2006-11-08 16:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to explain to him that you're not "finishing" and that its becoming a problem. He should want to satisfy you, its part of the relationship. But you've got to be honest with him about it.
2006-11-08 16:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by jwb674 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that he cums before you get to intercourse. give him a bj and then give him a few minutes to relax, then tell him that you are ready for some hot and sweaty sex. You need to make sure that you tell him that he needs to get you off before he gets off, maybe oral would be great. Its a wonderful way to get things hot and sexy. Talk dirty to him and tell him that you want him to take you for a ride to heaven. Make sure that he knows that this time you want to have your orgasm first and promise to give him one later! good luck!
2006-11-08 16:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try foreplay first see if that works. also stop often if you are on top to make it last longer. If this doesn't work try to slip him something that makes him last longer you can find it in most gas stations and sex shops.
2006-11-08 16:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him give you yours BEFORE he gets his. Through oral, "personal massagers" or whatever other way works. First, it guarantees you get some while he is participating. Second, if he sees how hot a woman is when she is "getting hers" it may encourage more effort on his part.
2006-11-08 16:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋