2006-11-08 07:54:46 · 33 answers · asked by brooklyn_buttafly314 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him, and have joint custody of the kids. Girl no one on this earth is worth staying with that is abusing and cheating on you.
2006-11-08 07:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate from him and allow him to take the children with an agreed upon schedule.
Cheating is a violation of the Marriage vows...clear and simple.
Abusing you Physically or emotionally is unlawful and a terrible thing to do to another human being.
Perhaps you are afraid of being alone with no money or support.
Gain some self confidence and confront your Husband about the cheating and the abuse. No woman should have to tolerate being married to any man under those conditions.
Good Luck.
2006-11-08 08:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce his Azz and let him be an on -the-weekend-dad. If he is a good father, he can be that without you! Go and find a better role model for a hubby to show your kids how it should be. Don't let the cycle continue for you kids when they grow up. A daughter should know that cheating and abuse are NOT ACCEPTIBLE in her husband and a son should never grow up to think that is how he should treat a woman.
Good luck!!!
2006-11-08 08:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off if you have a daughter then he is not a good father with the kids, girls see the roles played out in families and if she sees him hitting or knows he is cheating, she will allow the same things in her future relationships, or if you have a boy he will learn he can treat his future wife the same as you are being treated, get away and get help for you and for your kids...there are so many men that are looking for love that will treat you the way you should be treated! Take Half!
2006-11-08 08:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
http://www.ndvh.org/
Leaving always depends on you, your resources, and your ability to actually walk out the door. You can take the kids with and explain to them why YOU need to leave, give them the option (if they are old enough), or leave them. Whatever you choose - SAFETY FIRST!
One thing to think about is how your kids feel about the way he treats you, no matter how "great" he seems to be. Perhaps he takes care of them and all, but what is that teaching them? Good Luck.
2006-11-08 08:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by TAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and let him have the kids on the weekend. Is it worth staying with him at the expense of your physical and emotional well being? NO! If your children witness this then they are likely to repeat the nastiness when they grow up. Run girlfriend. There are other fish in the sea, and you definitely need to not hang with the sharks!!
2006-11-08 08:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it safe to leave him? do you have financial resources? do you have somewhere to go? contact your local domestic violence shelter. They won't pressure you to leave or not leave or anything. What they will do is give you options and help you figure out the safest way to handle your particular situation. I know things are messier than just leave or not leave. They'll help you work through whatever you need help with. Call the shelter or the abuse hotline or something. You're worth it, and even if he's great with the kids, he's really hurting them because he's hurting their mama.
2006-11-08 08:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by calebsdoodee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He disrespects you every day with the cheating and the abuse no matter if it's physical or mental, but your kids love him? Divorce him and share custody of the kids with him. Just because he's great with the kids doesn't mean that he's great for you.
2006-11-08 07:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
explain to them about fear...or just make him look even better by giving them special time with him ie weekends....your children will most probably resent you at first...but they are not children for lo.ng and soon find out what its like to have there heart broke and live in fear, wht happens if you put up with all of these things and then he walks out anyway..at least make yourself feel good for you and sling him out ..cos he we try be-little you and tell you no one will want you...well tell him you dont him....get back up though there are people to talk to and help you do this...do this for you ...cos when your kids are old enough they will do what they want and what makes them happy and if that means breaking your heart ...think of yrself..
2006-11-08 08:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by michellefluff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's abusing you, that alone is abuse for the kids. When kids see that dad disrespects mom, that teaches them that this normal and okay.
Leave him and get custody of the kids. Chances are, he will find someone else and treat her bad to that. There is no reason for your kids to be exposed to that.
2006-11-08 07:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋