I keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.This happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. We’re attracted to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me,feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc
She doesn’t like it when I mention other girls that I’m interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.She always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she’s not interested in anyone, don’t fancy anyone,etc
2006-11-08 07:52:48 · 14 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She now thinks that I started dating a girl and she practicaly ignored me, but has finally got back in touch after I txt her how much I miss her,thinking of her and we’ll always remain in touch-was this jealousy or just a coincidence? My behaviour has not changed towards her at all and I'm not actually dating anyone. Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend!there's no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell". Why'd she get so angry?
We kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.She said that I don’t do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn’t repulse her. So how can’t I do it for her?
2006-11-08 07:53:06 · update #1
I told her how I felt this wkn.She said we would never be together and only remain friends.When I asked her for her reasons,she could not give any concrete answers.Some excuses were:
1)Her view of a relationship is what we already do(apart from physical), so I asked would it be that wrong to add the physical aspect to it.She said NO, but that it wouldn't feel right-what does this mean?
2)She said we wouldn't work out as a couple but said she does not know why--has got a feeling,would not even give it a try.
3)Said I'm attractive,but its just ME as a whole that she does not see herself being with.What's this mean?
SHE ALWAYS TELLS ME THE TRUTH-WUD NOT LIE TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER/SPARE FEELINGS,IS ALWAYS HONEST.
Is not scared of commitment/relationship/ruining the friendship if we went further+failed.
What should I do?
Said she wants me in her life, but not in that way, can't imagine me not being in it/part of it.
2006-11-08 07:53:34 · update #2
Wow that is a Little confusing!!
the fact that she gets funny over girls must be she's jealous or scared of loosing you as a friend!! me bi she doesn't want to ruin what you have all ready got!
2006-11-08 08:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid she has given you her answer. It looks like friends only.
She may have some underlying male issues that she can't work out. She says she finds you attractive, but she does not fancy you. She is obviously quite hung up on you in some way. A friendship that has blossomed for so long rarely works out if it becomes a full blown relationship. She may feel scared that she will lose you altogether.
It is difficult to say exactly on what to do. It sounds quite complex. Does she feel that no-one else is good enough for you? Is it like a brother and sister love?
Ultimately, if she thought that much of you then she would not hold you back. Take her as the best FRIEND she is and move on. If you've tried to begin a relationship, but with no luck then you are still a free agent. If you meet someone else that's great. If she gets upset, then let her. She said that you can't be together, so her chance was over. Beware of sudden interest if you do meet someone.
Try not to pressure her when talking of boyfriends. Spend the time together that you usually do. She may feel left out if you became interested in someone else. Would someone else understand the friendship?
I'm sorry about your predicament. Sounds kinda familiar really. Take a step back and look on, I'm sure you'll find the way!
2006-11-08 08:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by veggiekayak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, She definitely likes you a lot! But is very insecure and scared of losing you as a friend. She is scared where something terrible might go wrong if you guys get into a relationship so she is compensating to live as frnds so that you dont go away from her.
If you are really interested in her, do try speaking to her and give it a shot for a short period of time..if it doesnt work out then fine get back to square one! ensure it doesnt involve too much sex coz she can get offended if you have too much of the physical contact when you are in the trail period. So keep it simple and straight with the same acitivtes and give it a little shot for the relationship.
This is the most practical thing i can think of as of now. Leme know good luck! :)
2006-11-08 08:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by blooink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on occasion you fel alot for someone as a chum yet don't sense bodily fascinated in that man or woman, which makes it perplexing to get right into a courting. It would not propose she would not love you and the jelousy would properly be right down to the actual undeniable actuality that she sees a lot less of you once you're in a courting with some different person. Be carefull! If she says she would not elect any better than friendship, you'll push her away in case you shop on at her. do you favor to lose her altogether? strong success. x
2016-10-16 08:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm, i think she wants to be no 1 in your life without the physical side, and a bit scared of having her nose pushed out if you started a relationship with some one else, and your new girlfriend would try and stop or interfere with this friendship you have.
i think what you should do is explain to her you will always have a special friendship and closeness, but she must understand if thats all she wants it to be, then you must have the freedom to see other people without any hard feelings towards yourself or any one else you see.
2006-11-08 08:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...real lovers are jealous...she will make a better half for you but you ae breaking her heart,'cos you should know that she doesn't like it when you talk much ablout the opposite(it makes her feel as if she is not attracted to you)..
she is doing that because she is afraid of heart break in the future...cos now, you appear to her as you are no more interested in her...
anyway, you should be able to know her likes and dislikes ....it is your fault her...
...most importantly, do you truely love her? I need a reply
get things right man...b4 the right you think gets you wrong
2006-11-08 08:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tywna Torres 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like she likes you but is scared of commitment, has she had some really bad relationships in the past?
Or she just likes your attention and doesn't want to loose it but doesn't really fancy you, if that's the case she is being selfish and just confusing you.
2006-11-08 08:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by b.ridgette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to say it because you sound like you really like her but I thnk she's just stringing you along until something better comes along. She likes your company for now because no one else is around but don't be surprised if your left by the wayside when she gets a new fella.
2006-11-08 10:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her friend and accept the relationship as just that, if you get a girlfriend and she acts cold towards you it sounds that she doesnt want you but she also wants nobody else to want you, if that happens go with the girlfriend and leave your mate alone.
2006-11-08 08:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by ........ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes you but is afraid that taking the relationship farther may mess up the friendship you two have. continue to be her friend.
2006-11-08 10:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Diane M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋