Now that I filed my divorce, I'm scared to be alone, I'm scared to see my soon to be ex-husband with another woman, I'm scared to even think about dating. How can I overcome this fear?
2006-11-08 07:47:25 · 22 answers · asked by FEDUP!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll be right over.
2006-11-08 07:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by crash 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First things first! Get through the divorce. Find new places to frequent and people to spend your time with. You may or may not see him with another woman. He may or may not see you with another man. Everything is merely a possibility!
Don't be afraid to be alone! I have been divorced for almost 10 years. It was difficult in the beginning for a while (a short while) but today, I love my life. Time to myself. I bought my own home. Changed careers. Made new friends. I've dated some and have been in a great relationship with a wonderful man for several years now. He would marry me in a New York minute but I don't think I want to go down that road again. Life is just too good the way it is right now. I love him but, you know what, I love me too and that is just as important! Being on your own can be a great experience. Think of it as a positive thing and take the negative connotations out of it. Leave the negative behind with your soon to be ex! Life is what you make it so go make it the best it can be for you!
2006-11-08 16:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say i know how you feel because i have never been married. So what i suggest you do is maybe seek some counseling to help you get through the divorce. Start doing things for yourself. Do things that make you happy. Join a fitness club and make your ex hubby jealous(hahaha j/k). Enroll in some classes that you might enjoy. Give yourself a head to toe makeover. Travel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Spend time with your family. Pamper yourself have a spa day with your friends. Soon enough you may find yourself having the time of your life. And may find love again you never know. God bless and take care.
2006-11-08 16:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't do it tomorrow or in a month or maybe a year. Everyone is different you need time and you NEED TO STOP THINKING. Your mind is your own worst enemy you could drive your self absolutely crazy if you don't take it down a notch. Take time to do some things you have always wanted to do but never had the chance. Take a class, go on vacation, be alone rediscover who you are and enjoy yourself. There is no need to fear - have fun - make the most of being single. It will be ok I promise.
2006-11-08 15:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only time will help, you need to spend more time with your family and friends, try to do fun things with people that you care for and love. Try to avoid seeing your ex with another woman, and don't push yourself to date yet, when you are ready, you will no longer feel the fear of it. Don't listen to people that tell you that you have to get out there and date, you don't have to do anything until you are ready. Take your time and learn to love yourself and your time alone again and when you do, dating will come naturally! good luck!
2006-11-08 15:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some really good girl friends to go out on the town with. Girlfriends are the key to survival after ANY break-up/divorce. A friend of mine went through this, very severly, but with some good nights with her friends, she got through it. It didn't last long, but you'll have moments where it seems unbearable, that is why you need a support group of girlfriends. 3 or 4 so that if one is busy you'll always have someone to get out of the house with. Even if it is just to watch a movie or go have dinner.
2006-11-08 15:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by moviegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start spending time alone because you will think a lot and the things that you use to like when you were married you feel differently about and new ideas will come to you and also new adventures. You need to take the first step and once you have done that it will be a piece of cake!
good luck to ya!
2006-11-08 15:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the reasons you filed. This is a natural feeling that will disappear in time. Don't worry about it. Surround yourself with your friends, kids if you have them. Watch movies, go places, live life one day at a time & it will all work out. I'm sorry you are going thru this, but happy for you as well!! Good luck, honey!!
2006-11-08 15:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by daj11551 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The unknown future is very scary. You just have to remember that there was a reason you got a divorce; you were unhappy. It may take time to adjust to your new life, but, as you have with all new ventures, you will survive. Your destiny is in your own hands. Just make sure you make the most of your life.
2006-11-08 15:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find things that you enjoy doing. Take time for yourself and your interests. When I decided to leave my husband I had to discover who I was and what I liked. It is a weird transition, but you can do it. Surround yourself with positive friends and family. Dating is probably better off waiting for a period of time until you get to know yourself again. I made the mistake of dating just so I wouldnt be alone. You have to like yourself and like spending time alone with yourself before anyone else will. Best of Luck!
2006-11-08 15:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the exact same way.Wife left three weeks ago.I got good friends at work and get a lot of support online.I wish you the very best of luck.Move on immediatley at least to the male friendship level and if you ever want to talk.I am here for you.
2006-11-08 17:45:41 · answer #11 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋