2006-11-08 07:46:34 · 24 answers · asked by countrydreamer71 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The girl might as well not have parents. They are worthless. They don't care about anything but drugs and themselves. they are white trash. The girl / baby is in a foster home because she will not straighten up and CPS is asking me to take the baby !!
2006-11-08 08:06:38 · update #1
I would take the child and raise it until he finished school- he would be on lock down,required to work and care for the child. unfortunetly his mistake is lasting and he has to become a man and father,while I would care for the child and son...I would make it crystal clear that he is the parent.
2006-11-08 07:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st I would find out if he is a father or not and if he is I would probably cry for a couple hours. Then I would find a way to be apart of the babies life, and have my 14 year old help take care of the baby. For example, I would have the baby over, and he would learn to feed the baby, and change the baby, and take care of the baby, if only for a day or two or a few hours here and there. In hopes that he will think twice about having another until he is grown. Plus that being my grand baby I would want to know the child.
2006-11-08 15:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,now that she is already pregnant there is not anything you can do besides be there for him.If he needs to be that emotional support line for him.Help him and her raise this child.It will not be an easy task,for you or for them but it isnt impossible.Make sure he knows that this baby is his and that he must take care of it.Help him,while he goes to school,but he doesnt get a free ride,when he gets home,he must take over.During the night,he must take over,Your only there when it is absolutely necessary.Once he sees it and holds it,as well as you,you both are going to fall in love with it.You cannot really punish him,as he has 4 years of which he should be out with friends now,being a father.Just be there for them both,as an emotional support line and help him out.Ultimately,you have to be the one to make the decision.I am merely telling you what i would do in your situation.However,no one can tell you what you need to do or have to do,only you can answer that.You need to sit down with your son,you both need to talk and discuss the situation.He needs to know that he has to take responsibility for his actions.Good luck hun,and have a good evening.
Just Remember,It isnt easy,but its not impossible.
2006-11-08 17:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky for me and my husband that our religion does not allow boys and girls in the same classrooms. But if that did happen I would of course make my son care for his child. Why should the child suffer because it's mother is a screw up? At least if your son takes care of his child it will have one parent it can look up too. Also you are now a grandmother whether you like the idea or nor.
2006-11-08 16:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well right now is no time to judge anybody and not even time to tell him what to do or how to avoid things that already happened, talk to him and try to come up with a plan to make all this work out, what the 2 kids and the one in the way need right now is support and help, not judgments or I told you so's, work together and find a way for everybody to keep up with the situation, good luck for all of you!!!!
2006-11-08 20:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by woodtigerdp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to take both the mother AND the baby...Don't rip that poor baby from the girl, Especially given she comes from what sounds like a screwed up family..
As for your son, I would stand beside him 100%, Encourage him to do odd jobs around the neighborhood to earn money to help buy diapers etc..
Teach him the importance of being in his childs life!
Best of luck to all 4 of you!
2006-11-08 16:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- Loaded question - I would say that is not something that most people want to deal with, but if I had to... I would hope that my son was a responsible young man. Because hes about to become one. I would push him to be a man because he made the decision to be one when he had unprotected sex. Get him to finish school, but find a way to support the baby. Thats a hard one. Good luck!
2006-11-08 15:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a situation where understanding and compassion are in need. He needs a lot of counsel right now and I don't mean from a professional. All they will do is make something wrong out of the entire incident and someone (probably your son) will be charged with a crime. Talk with him and explain how it is not proper to father a child at his age and be supportive. Please, whatever you do, don't berate or badger him. Do what you can to convince him to be more responsible in his actions.
2006-11-08 15:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by john h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man....that's rough. I have a sexually frustrated 16yr. old so I think about this every once in awhile. So hm mm not much you can do now, really. Except try to explain his actions and responsibilities for his upcoming future. But if hes like my son (in one ear, out the other) good luck. Just let him know your disappointed about the situation, not him. And your there for him. Again I feel your frustration and Best Wishes.
2006-11-08 15:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by bad1bud 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 14 year old son, fathered his own child?
I can't see myself accepting that but you have to make sure he knows his responsibilities. He needs to get a job and help out with the baby and also try and finish school.
It will be hard but try to be supportive.
2006-11-08 15:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋