I have been married for six years and my husband I have had a very.very. bad marriage. There were good times but now a days it has been nothing but, accusations and name calling. I work my *** off at accomplishing my school work and have good grades. Recently, I have asked my husband for a seperation because things just isn't right between us. I just want for my marriage to work but it just aint happening. We aren't sleeping with each other. We sit in seperate rooms, we do not agree on raising the kids. It is a shame because I want to work things out, but he keeps himself distant from me. I don't want to be alone but I honestly do not love him anymore. I don't want to loose my house. I just want him to go and find a life for himself. Should I divorce?
2006-11-08 07:46:11 · 12 answers · asked by VON 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes
2006-11-08 07:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not feel like you love him, because you have lost sight because of all the fighting. But you married this man for a reason had children with him, you are family. Maybe you're going to school is making you feel more independent, great, but don't go to far to think that you and the kids don't need him. Maybe he senses you feel that way, that could be why he tries to distance himself. A house is not a home. Keep your family together. No one has a fairy tale marriage, there's no such thing. Both of you have to work on it. How much have you contributed to keeping the peace between the two of you?
2006-11-08 15:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be on your way, but their children involved and if you are in a state that has community property, sell your house split up the equity, furnisher, the whole caboddle. It isn't as easy as it looks for some people, that have a family to help them. It's real hard to live with someone when both of you have no love for each other. Sometimes for the children sake you have to ride it out until your able to leave, that maybe years.
2006-11-08 16:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest having a serious talk with him about what he wants and needs and if at all possible go to marriage counseling. If you both are in agreement that it should end, then end it! Life is too short to be unhappy!! Smile, it will get better!! :)
2006-11-08 15:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by niedermn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't divorce. You didn't mention if you went to therapy together, you didn't mention if you talked things out with him. If you told him you were considering divorce, he might want to work on your marriage. You have to tell him what you just told us I highly doubt he is a mind reader.
2006-11-08 15:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should divorce. That's not even a marriage. But I'm assuming since you're married its his house too. You really need to talk to a lawyer.
2006-11-08 15:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all...why do you need to ask him for a separation? Why not just tell him that you need to seperate and just do it? it could be jealously in that you are doing something about your life and that he sees you doing better than he is. but don't settle for something that is bad for you. continue making the changes to better your life. don't be so afraid to be alone. you have your friends and your family.
2006-11-08 15:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question isn't should I divorce...It should be why haven't you divorced him yet....if you don't love him anymore than move on and maybe both of you could find happiness...
2006-11-08 15:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget about you two think of your poor kids and only them. Shame on the both of you.
2006-11-08 15:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't make something work that isn't work, everything you might lose you can have again one day, your life is what you make of it and you deserve to be happy
2006-11-08 15:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by ajboxx04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋