I don't want to announce my pregnancy until I am "safe" at about 3 months. My husband wants to tell everyone right away because we have been wanting a baby so long he can't keep it in.
I am just worried about telling everyone and then possibly miscarrying. I don't want to tell my friends or co-workers until I am about 4 months pregnant. A woman at my work announced her pregnancy and lost it at 6 weeks, she was so upset when people asked about the baby. My friend announced her pregnancy at 5 weeks and the same thing happened to her.
When should you tell your family?
When should you tell your friends?
When should you tell your boss/co-worker?
What do you think?
2006-11-08 07:39:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I told everyone right away when I found out (about 5 weeks) but that was a big mistake! I miscarried a week later. Now that we are trying again I will tell my parents right away but I will hold off telling the whole family and friends until I am at least 3 months.
2006-11-08 07:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always heard that you should not tell anyone about your pregnancy until after 3 months BUT the truth is that you can have a miscarriage at any time, you can have still births and all kinds of things! I was never afraid of loosing my baby, I just knew everything was going to be fine because I was taking real good care of myself and I knew my baby was going to be just fine! The first person I told was my husband and I had just found out 4 days before my missed period, I just couldn't wait to tell my mom because I knew how important this was for her too so the next person was my mom and my mom told the rest of the family, then we told my husband's family and so on, within a month of me being pregnant EVERYBODY else knew! I am currently 27w and very happy and blessed to have had so far a great pregnancy. My family never doubted I was going to be fine, noone in my mother's side of the family has ever had a miscarriage, Thank God for that, BUT on my husband's side of the family they were always very negative, they didn't really get into my pregnancy until I was almost 5 months, they used to tell me not to get too excited just in case I lost the baby and I was like HOW CAN I NOT BE EXCITED??? I HAVE BEEN WANTING THIS BABY MORE THAN ANYTHING, but I don't care, not even their negativity made me feel bad. But see, don't be afraid, I felt so good when I told my mom because she has helped me so much with all the questions I have had and she has been awesome and it feels so good that she feels happier than I do! I told my friends right away too, the close one's not every single friend but I have a great friend who just had a baby and she has helped me through this pregnancy too, it is just nice to share the stories. I do not work so I don't know about work and co-wprkers. But if you want to do it DO it, do not do what the others tell you to do. My husband was telling EVERYONE TOO even when they didn't ask!
2006-11-08 08:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happend to my, We told everyone and I lost the baby, it was awful I got a txt message from a coworker that didnt know wishing me a happy mother's day, i told her what happened and she felt horrible, then you have to deal with all the people feeling sorry for you, it sucks, this time we only told my mom and my grandma and sister in law before the fourth month because I was in the hospital, I also told my boss because I had to take a leave of absence and there were certain things I couldnt do at work. Tell your boss so you can have a little more consideration and they dont think you are just being lazy
2006-11-08 08:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far along are you at the moment? Personally I'd want my family to know about the pregnancy even if it was to end in miscarriage so that I could have their support, I would tell my family straight away which could be as early as 4 weeks. With my friends I would attempt to wait until 12 weeks although some closer friends I might tell earlier. With work I would wait as long as possible at least 12 weeks however you may have bad sickness in that case I would confide in a manager earlier so that s/he knows the situation. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-11-08 07:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the same boat. I'm 7 weeks pregnant right now and my husband and I haven't told anyone yet. We plan on telling our parents after my 8 week appointment, after hearing the heartbeat and making sure the embryo is in the uterus and not in a fallopian tube. Once, we get a good report, then we'll share the news with our parents and siblings and wait until we're 12 weeks to tell any other family members, friends, and co-workers.
2006-11-08 08:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, we told everyone right away with both pregnancies. I guess you could wait for co workers and boss so there are no questions if something does happen, but I would tell your family and friends now anyways. Things happen, all the time! You can't help it, and why shelter yourself from everything. My brother in law told his mom his wife was pregnant (she was only 3 weeks) and HE died 3 days later. So, they are glad he was the one able to tell her she was going to be a grandmother. It's your choice and base it on your feelings. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-08 07:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The decision is ultimately up to you. You and your husband will need to come to an agreement. 3 months is a good time to let everyone know, but in my personal experience, my husband and I told half our family and friends the same day we found out! We are bad at keeping good news secret, I guess. Have a good long talk with your husband, tell him how you feel and that it is important to you to be sure that everything is ok before letting everyone in on it. Best of luck to you...
2006-11-08 07:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by L80bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share the enjoyment with near loved ones instantly. If you set it off a few could get disillusioned however you'll be able to inform them that you just loved having this kind of exceptional mystery all to your self for a at the same time. For others, wait till the top of the third month. The odds of whatever going flawed after that factor are low. If you're going to have an amnio experiment, then you may also wish to maintain off on telling men and women till when you get the outcome.
2016-09-01 09:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i told my family right away. It will be easyier to deal with a mc if that were to happen with your family around anyways. but hopefully that wont happen
tell your close friends as soon as you want. It's fun to talk to friends about baby names and to go shopping for baby stuff with them, and other moms will give you advise or if you have any questions
tell your boss/co-workers after the 3 month mark
2006-11-08 07:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first baby I told my parents and family and friends at 2 months. Then with my second I waited until I was 4 months until I told everyone.
2006-11-08 07:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by brittneyn127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋