2006-11-08 07:33:34 · 14 answers · asked by karen j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell a social worker. I am serious, this way, when you do move they may have him have supervised visits. This happens far too often to be taken lightly.
Talk to your kids and let them know that they are going to be safe and that they don't have to go visit him if they don't want too. If your children do not feel safe, it is your job to protect them and let them know that they are safe.
Get them secret cells phones, like the firefly from cingular, so that they can call if something happens to them. Have drills so that they know how to run, how to signal for help and where to go if something happens and their dad does kidnap them. This will make them feel safer, because if something happens they are not helpless.
2006-11-08 07:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should let someone know..lawyer, friends, family and the police..I live in Arizona and this happens weekly in Phoenix..I kid you not. Are you moving? Or is he just saying that to scare them? I am friends with my ex, I even work with him but I know that if I ever moved away he would take me to court..not that he would get custody as he only has them 4 days a month, but there is a law that can keep me from moving out of state until the boys are old enough.
Sorry that your children have to live through all that..It can be hard on them.
2006-11-08 07:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by crimson_ghost03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure which I would do first, so don't take the order inwhich I present this as being that order.
I would tell the kids that it's not right or fair that their "Father" say things like that in front of them.
I would review my divorce decree and remind myself and then possibly remind him as well what it says about moving.
I would confront him about talking smack in front of the kids.
I would contact "Friends of the Court" so that they might either document this behavior of his or they might themselves investigate him and set him straight.
As difficult as it is sometimes, adults should never speak ill of their ex-spouses, especially in front of the children. Instead, they should try and remember why it was they married them in the first place, and hoping those were happier times, hold those thoughts when they hear such things coming from the mouths of babes.
And if that is not enough, get a lawyer and force him back to the negotiation table -- understanding that you also run the risk of losing more than you'd gain.
2006-11-08 07:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's emotional blackmail and he has no business telling your kids such crap! If you have custody of the kids you may want to tell him that those comments may cause him less visits. If you want to move to another city then go for it! No one has a right to mess with a kids spirit, and that's exactly what he's doing. It might be better for your kids to move if he plays mind games like that!
2006-11-08 07:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ward N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are the mummy of his toddler, he will continually care approximately you and difficulty approximately your wellness and risk-free practices, Even after a bitter divorce. yet do no longer confuse that with love. concern and worrying isn't love. Take it common and cope with him such as you will possibly a commonplace date. you're the two distinctive in lots of techniques now. there'll be a number of the guy you knew nevertheless in him, yet there'll be a lot approximately him you do no longer understand now. do no longer hop into mattress or do something silly like initiate speaking approximately motives you broke up. particularly communicate approximately the place you have been on your lives and what your toddler has been doing. you're able to be able to locate you like the guy your Ex has grow to be, or you're able to be able to locate which you do no longer choose him around in any respect. Base your determination to proceed with the relationship on who your Ex is now. If he's distinctive, then there is not any reason to extend the previous. If he nevertheless has the characteristics you probably did no longer like, then there's no longer something to be gained via hashing it throughout back. basically flow on and don't take the relationship any farther.
2016-10-15 13:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to move to another city and take the kids further from their father? Unless he's a useless piece of human sewage, your kids need to have their father in their life.
2006-11-08 07:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in my opinion if the father of my kids threatened in any way to take the kids away i'd go file for immediate legal joint custody that way you both would have to agree on where the kids go.hope this helps i'm in no position to help though but this is what i'd do....
2006-11-08 07:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by chriswithtwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult your attorney, your ex my be in violation of your divorce decree if he does this, depending on what the stipulations of your decree has.
2006-11-08 07:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by buck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the kids that daddy is angry and saying silly things and you won't let anything bad happen to them
2006-11-08 07:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps you should talk to your ex, then if he does not calm down a lawyer
2006-11-08 07:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋