I feel so awful! I love my husband dearly, i truly do. Sometimes I just wonder if he is the right one? Like what if i rushed it and theres someone better out there? Any one go through this?
2006-11-08 07:31:57 · 22 answers · asked by uh_huh_ok_wassup_shutup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's normal if you wonder while getting railed in the balloon knot...
2006-11-08 07:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at it from another perspective: there's no magical "Mr. Right"; we meet many people in our lives, some of them we click with, some we don't. Any one person can potentially be "Mr. Right" if he possesses a combination of good traits we can admire and bad traits we can tolerate. In other words, there's no objective "test" that could establish whether a particular person is THE right one or not - instead, it's all "in your head"; it's how you feel, it's how you believe it to be. Sometimes, you meet a person, and he seems wonderful; he's got everything you would ever wish for in a mate; yet, something just doesn't "feel" right; it really is a gut feeling that is hard to explain. In every relationship, there will be a give-and-takes; there will be things that are not perfect, that you wish were different, that are annoying. The trick is to figure out if you can live with these things and accept them in your mate.
I apologize if my extrapolation is not correct, but it sounds to me like you simply haven't had much relationship expereince, and are simply wondering what else is "out there". My personal opinion is that there's nothing "out there", it's all "in here" - your head and your heart. Everything is what you make it out to be. If you have a good relationship - you really don't need to compare it with a bunch of bad ones; just enjoy it. It's ok to always have good food, and to never have to taste dirt; although I agree that after you HAVE tasted dirt, you might appreciate good food a little bit more.
2006-11-08 15:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of people do, especially after an argument, or when he's being lazy, or when the relationship gets a little boring. But you say you truly love you husband, so wonder no longer, you love him for everything even his faults. He may not be perfect, but he's perfect for you. There's all kinds out there, but how can anyone be better than the one you love, eh? Bet ya could've done a lot worse. Be happy.
2006-11-08 15:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, I know my husband isn't Mr. Right, but he is the love of my life, I met Mr. Right a long time ago, he was perfect to me in every way, until he got another girl pregnant and a to marry her! I know my husband isn't perfect, but he's the only man I want to be with the rest of my life.
He is the right one for you, that's why you married him and not some other guy. Don't stress out on 'what would've happened if? It's not worth it. Enjoy your man! Good luck
2006-11-08 16:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Muchachita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have never been married, but almost one time. Thank God i didn't, because he was so wrong for me. Maybe the guy you are with isn't "The One" but you have made a commitment to him and you love him...so now you just have to work through it. I think that there are lots of people you are compatible with out there in the world, it just depends on which one you choose to settle down with. I think it's normal to have doubts, but like i said, you chose him, so now he is the one you have to make be the one for you.
2006-11-08 15:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When times get rough you always wonder but I can promise you all men have issues and all women wish they had a man with no issues, the key is not if he is Mr. Right the key is working to make the marriage right!
2006-11-08 15:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do but that is a question u ask urself b4 u get marrid!! But as long as u love ur husband than u should be happy stop and think maybe u did find Mr.Right and thats the reason y u love him.
2006-11-08 15:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Pricas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is mrs or mr totally right. There are quirks about each and every one of us. Marriage is a matter of adjustment, meeting each other half way. Don't dwell so much on the negative. You will talk yourself out of him. Look at the positive things and talk yourself into him.
2006-11-08 15:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal simply b/c you're now living with this person and learning all about their little idiosyncracies. I think you get over it with time as long as you continue to work on your marriage and making the best of it instead of bailing just b/c you're having doubts. Don't let the doubts overtake you and have you end up unhappy and alone.
2006-11-08 15:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a series of highs and lows. I think it's normal to question yourself during periods of lows.
I bet you don't think those thoughts when you two are happy and laughing and sharing with each other...
Hange in there. If it's not an abusive relationship, you are just having normal thoughts during the periods of lows.
2006-11-08 15:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-08 15:42:06 · answer #11 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋