My boyfriend of six years has cheated on me and called me a ***** to my face a number of times. I can't talk to him about my feelings without him yelling and cussing me out, i feel like i'm worse than the dirt on his shoes. He has not hit me , but i am scared around him when he's mad, I also give up on how i feel to make him feel better and just relaxe when he is yelling so i end up saying I'm sorry for bringing up my feelings to him but he never says I'm sorry for anything he does. Yesterday we had a fight and he told me he hated me and he wanted me to move out of our home i have no legal rights to the house but he has made me feel from the beginning that this was our home what legal rights do i have as far a living there?, i have moved to a new city with him and i don't know anyone and i don't have a job yet, what do i do?
2006-11-08 07:28:42 · 15 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do inquire about your dwelling rights in your state. Things won't change. He won't change. You aren't happy and you won't magically be happy in 6 months. I've been there and you're wasting time with him. He's got some issues that YOU CAN't HELP HIM WITH. Respect is such an important thing. Do you think he won't hesitate to throw you out whenever he wants to...he's already said it and if he gets mad enough he'll do it. Many times name calling turns into hitting and pushing and you could be DEAD. It sounds cliche but it's so true. How well do you think you know him. I know it hurts to think about it but you really don't know what he's capable of if he doesn't see you as a person and he doesn't . He's thinking I can call her whatever and treat her however so you are setting the pace for this. If you don't take it and decide to leave believe me he'll try to find someone else who will...it's on to the next person making them feel like #@*! because that's how he feels about himself. Usually an abuser has been abused in some way so that's al he/she knows. Make preparations so he doesn't throw you on the street or when you leave you'll have some place to go. Best wishes.
2006-11-08 07:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him 6 years, you may be legally married to him and can have 1/2 of what he owns or at least 1/2 of what he has accumulated over the past 6 years. Go talk to a lawyer. If he thinks you nave a case, He will go after him for a %. Get a job, get out of the house. You don't want to live like this the rest of your life do you?
2006-11-08 15:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are six years together. How much time is this relationship abusive? Can you return to the place you were before meeting him? It will not be easy but better run if you can! Say goodbye and don't be sorry, Six years are not a lot. You can find better!
2006-11-08 15:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness...First of all Mental Abuse sometimes is worse than physical...at least physical you can see the pain....You need to get out of this relationship and put an end to the pain and suffering...You can survive on your own...it may take a little time but believe me you will get there...
2006-11-08 15:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off , you need to call up a support system(parents, friends) and move away and back from where you came for. DO NOT STAY THERE or you will regret it. Just pack your stuff and go, all your losing is an unhealthy relationship.
2006-11-08 15:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Punky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call an attorney to fing out what legal rights you might have in your state. Meanwhile, you need to get a job and move out. This is no way to live.
2006-11-08 15:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
read this book by pratricia evans its called the verbally abusive man can he really change? It changed my life. And do you. Put god and you first. Love yourself! If you have to move back home with your family then do it. We as women always put are feelings aside and put others before us, but how can you do that when you dont have anything left for yourself. But please read that book it will make a difference trust me.
2006-11-08 15:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that your boyfriend is cheating on you live him let him have fun with his world that he like to have fun with all the time girl and if he does not whant to her your feelings like I said live him and find your self a reall guy that cares about you and your feelings and one day he his going to regreated the most for not lisening to your feelings and you dont need him at all gril live him for the last time am telling you live him and like he said find your self a real guy thank you
2006-11-08 15:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by lparacely l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a way of making your way. Maybe you can start wtih staffing agencies or move back to the city where you are from.
2006-11-08 15:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put up with it until you get on your feet. start changing your life and he will begin to see the difference. when he starts yelling an acting a fool , walk away! just go into another room an totally ignore him! don't love foolishly....
2006-11-08 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋