I don't know what happend to me. Suddenly, about a month ago, I totally lost interest in having sex. I feel really bad b/c I just have no desire. I want to, but I can't even get close to getting into the mood. I just can't leave my husband hanging, but I really don't know what my deal is?!?
2006-11-08 07:25:50 · 34 answers · asked by oppsy_poopsy123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-08 07:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by texaslady78 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I had that happen to me a couple of years ago. I was under a lot of stress and unhappy with my job and life (not him though). Stress, depression, sometimes a new medication, these are all factors that can cause this to happen. What got me into it so I could at least have sex with him two or three times a month so he stayed satisfied until the problem was fixed: we watched porn together and added some fun new toys. He pursued me romantically, cooking for me, giving me massages with scented oils...things like that. Talk to him about it...tell him he has to help you out. You're there, you just need some help to really get "there". My husband laughed, "You mean I gotta get you in the mood to be in the mood??" I told him yeah...so he did whatever it takes. Yours will too and before you know it, once you've figured out what's going on that's causing that personal blockage, you're sex life will be better than ever...hopefully. Try new things, anything that sparks an interest. He'll do whatever you want as long as you let him. Best of luck!
2006-11-08 07:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of uncertainty in the question, but here goes:
1. Most importantly, do not point the finger (neither at yourself nor at him). Blame does not help anything, and perhaps makes it worse. Sexual chemistry is two elements mixing.
2. Look into what has changed (outside of your sex life). Are you more stressed? Is he? Are there health factors that might be affecting you or him? Diet or exercise issues?
3. Find other ways of feeling intimate, in the mean time. Explore massage, role playing, etc. In short, mix it up.
4. Finally, make sure you communicate with him about this. Try and get his feelings about it so you two can grow because of this, rather than having it be a pitfall.
Good luck. :)
2006-11-08 07:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by mjkiranj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes any kind of change will cause libido to go downhill. Have a check-up with your doctor & talk about this with him/her. You may have some female problems, or it could be a hormone imbalance.... or it could be 1/2 dozen other things. The best thing to do is to talk with your doctor as soon as possible, & satisfy your husband in any way you can. I'm sure he will love all the different ways you pleasure him. Besides, you never know... if you don't have a physical problem, then your sex drive just might kick back into gear. ;)
2006-11-08 07:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spice up your sex life by doing something completely out of the ordinary. My crazy wife went to an adult store and bought a couple of things that were completely not in her nature (or so I thought)! That added a lot to our relationship, and after 23 years, we still turn each other on! You may want to make sure you aren't having any medial problems first though, and then if all is well, take it from there!
2006-11-08 07:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ward N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First see a doctor. It may be a hormone imbalance or it may be stress related. If these are ruled out then you may think about using some sex toys or other ways to spice up your sex life. But the most important move to make is to talk to your mate about it. Communication is the most important thing that you can do.
2006-11-08 16:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Sometimes I feel like this too. But you know, sometimes I give in and have sex, and guess what? It's fantastic. I think it is my age??? And I feel horrible for my husband, but he understands(most times). Don't beat up on yourself. It just happens. Maybe it's our hormones? Like testosterone, I guess we need that. Maybe it is low. If you are really concerned go see a doctor, and let us all know what happened. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 07:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get in the mood because he will find someone that is in the mood.I bet then you'll get in the mood but by then he won't want you.Be very careful their are plenty of women out there that will listen to your husbands problems.That is how most affairs start Good Luck!.
2006-11-08 07:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your doctor. You are not the first woman with a fading libido. It is pretty common in your late 30's and 40's. It is sometimes linked to low levels of progesterone, a male hormone. Easy to fix with a cream. In the meanwhile, talk to your husband...be sure he knows it isn't him. Let him know he is still loved. Good luck to you!
2006-11-08 07:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to relax, take a shower and get yourself in the mood, watch a sexy movie, and start kissing him, you will get in the mood fast, men don't like to have to wait that long, if I were you, I would do something soon.
2006-11-08 07:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1, Hormonal see a DR
2. Sex is for procreation and your done having kids
3. Your not a sexual being
4. Your married and behaving the way 95% of woman behave when they get married
2006-11-08 07:53:15 · answer #11 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋