Confusion about pregnancy?

Question

I am 5 weeks pregnant and I'm not sure what to do. I went to the clinic yesterday for a pregnancy test and it tested positive. And now my boyfriend and I are completely clueless as to what to do next. I'm 22 years old and he's 25, we are at a good age in life to have children, but we fear that we are not ready yet, at least not for a couple years at least.

So my choices are to have the child and hopefully raise him/her well, or adoption, in which my boyfriend doensn't really want because he doesn't want his first born to be adopted out. And then there is abortion. I've already been throught this once and I'm not all that sure I can do it again. I hate this situation I'm in, yes, I'm sure some of you are thinking "you should've been more careful, like use protection", but I was taking the pill and I just kept forgetting to take it the same time everyday, so I ended up missing a few days then had to wait for the next turn around.

So if anyone out there can help me, thanks.

Answer 1

I sympatize with you. This is going to take a heart to heart with the baby's dad and some serious thinking on your part. Learn about all your choices. I had my baby at 19 years old, after using birth control AND condoms every time. I stayed in school and worked a full time job and it was not easy, but I have a beautiful baby girl and I don't regret the choice to have her. It's hard, but you'll have to make the right decision for you. No one here can tell you what your choice should be.

Answer 2

First of all...just relax. I know that raising a child is FAR from easy...but if you are not wanting to have an abortion, and you are not comfortable with adoption...then you are left with only one choice. You don't want to make a decision that will haunt you for the rest of your life. Giving up a baby is probably one of the hardest things in the world. If you go into this pregnancy knowing that you will be putting it up for adoption, I suggest you do a lot of research and get some counseling.
In my opinion...I would suggest that you prepare to be the best parent you could be. Having a baby is tough...and it is a life long committment...but it is soooooo worth it. When that baby is born...it is amazing how instantly, you are in love. And not just any love. this is the kind of love that you can never imagine until you hear them cry and they place them in your arms....it's like the whole world disappears and somehow, the only thing that matters is that one little being. It truly is a gift and a miracle.
Do as much research on adoption as you can..if that is the route you choose...and though I am not against abortion, I do know how it can affect you for the rest of your life and I wouldn't suggest that.
Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Look you have some big decisions to make. Take them one at a time. First you must decide if you are going to have the child, it sounds like your bf doesnt want an abortion and it sounds like you dont want to either. I think thats great.Then only really two choices left adoption and raising it your self. Will you and he marry if you decide to have the babe? Will you have the financial resources to raise a child? Marriage is of course not absolutely necessary but is in the best interest of the child. If you decide on adoption get a reputable organization to help you with all the hurdles. And if you do adopt the child out remember you are making the ultimate proof of love when you let someone else raise the child when you cannot or dont think you can. Maybe after this is over you should consider the shots kind of birth control as you dont have to remember them.

Answer 4

This is a very personal decision that only you and your bf can make together.
I don't think there is ever a time that you feel completely ready to have children. There is always some reason to put it off. I did not feel ready either, but once he got here, all of my fears and concerns disappeared and now I know that even though I was nervous about it not being the right time, I definately made the right decision. He has changed our lives - but in a great way.
Good luck in whatever you decide!

Answer 5

What ever you do don't kill it.Why should the baby have to die because of your irresponsibility.And don't give it away either.U and your boyfriend made this baby and u better commit to it.If u knew u weren't ready to have a kid u shouldn't have been having sex i don;t care about u saying u forgot .Well OH WELL!!! You should be more careful.and i know you forgot to take it the same time each day but that isn't an excuse.Have the baby be a good parent love your child and if ur doing ur best to raise it then u will be a great parent.

Answer 6

Well I think that if you aren't ready to have children, then you shouldn't be having sex. You created this child so you should step up and have it. The two of you really should of thought about that before made a child. Not meaning to bash you, but that is the truth. Next time look into the ring or patch or something that doesn't require you to remember birthcontrol daily if you insist on having sex. I had my first child at 18 and trust me having a child isn't the end of the world, you would be suprised how much you really could love this child if you put the time, effort and heart into it.

Answer 7

Nobody can tell you the correct thing to do....
You need to figure it out for yourself.

I'm 23 years old, and I just had my second kid, neither of them were planned, my first one I was 20 when I got pregnant, I was living with my boyfriend, he was in a band, we went to shows all the time, I wasn't ready to settle.....
But I made a choice, that I would take the responsibility of being a parent. And I have not regretted it once since I've had my son, he is the most awesome kid in the world! I love him so much!
I know you think you are not ready, there are alot of sacrifices you must make withhaving a kid, but its worth it....
If you want to be, you will be an awesome parent!
Good luck!
If you want to talk more, my e-mail is [e-mail]

Answer 8

I know what you are going through. We are both the same age and so are our men. If you really want this child then you both should try to work things out and hope for the best. It sounds like your man might want you to keep the child and if you both really love each other then it might work out.

I would say go ahead and carry the child full term. As far as you relationship with your man, if he really loves you and wants to be there he will be there no matter what.

Nobody is ever really ready for parenthood, so your fears are completely normal and very safe. Talk to your doctor and see what they can tell you about the next nine months and what to expect. Also talk to both of your families and ask them for support both emotionally and physically.

I hope that I have helped you in some form and good luck to the both of you and congrats on mommy-hood.

Answer 9

Well I'm 23, my husband 28. I got pregnant before we were married and we were together 6 months but it was love at first sight. We now have an 8 month old angel! We live with my inlaws and make just enough to get by. But I wouldnt change it for the world. I you are religious or not this may help
God is never early and never late, he is always on time
God doesn't not us anything that we cannot handle
you will be fine and wonderful parents

Answer 10

You have a hard desicion. Wgy do you feel you are not ready? I don't think you are ever ready for children. If you truely feel you are not capable of raising the baby, you shouldn't keep it. I think it is worse for mothers to keep a baby and not take care of it then getting an abortion. Although, I think the best choice is adoption if you can not or do not want to take care of the baby.