16.f.tx ..I been going out with my bf for half a month now almost two. And he said "if we have sex we might be closer and be conftable more". And he said "once i do it ill be glad i did it and i wont regreat it.Should i make him wait more or have sex?
2006-11-08 07:20:18 · 52 answers · asked by ~::~Ariana~::~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Make him suffer.
2006-11-08 07:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ice Troy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Seems to be like he's pressuring you...very subtledly. Look, if you're not ready to do something you don't want to don't do it. If he really cares about you he'd understand that you want to wait and will respect that. If he doesn't then he's not worth it. Besides 'half a month now almost two' (have no idea if you're saying half a month or two months) is not necessarily stable grounds to make that kind of a commitment because sex comes with commitments and possible consequences. Think hard because it will be a life altering decision. Don't take this lightly. Good luck.
2006-11-08 07:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you still a virgin?
First of all, 1 1/2 months is not very long! If you are not already close and comfortable with this guy, you definetely shouldn't have sex with him. It won't bring you closer, in fact he may leave after he gets what he wants. You will be very emotionally attached to him if you decide to have sex, and boys usually don't look at it in the same way. Make sure that you are in love first. You should trust him, be very comfortable around him and know that he isn't just in it for the sex. Make him wait! If he truly cares, he won't pressure you into it! You are very young, no need to rush it!
2006-11-08 07:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, let me say this and pleae dear take it to heart:
"TO HELL WHAT HE SAYS"
The real question here is how do you feel about sex, do your feel an urge to, do you want to, sex isn't a matter of well he said we'd be closer. He just smay want to have sex with you now, but then it'll be become well the more we do it the closer we'll be, and then you'll be having more sex (probably unprotected) then you could, depending on how much he gets around, catch something, or get pregnant.
Just remember it is your body and your choice to have sex. If he really cares for you he'll wait. Me may just get mad and break up with you too, call you a tease and all sorts of crap to quilt you into bed. Once you make up your mind be strong. If you want to that's your choice not his to make.
2006-11-08 07:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should make him wait me and my bf dated 2 1/2 years b4 we did it and we were both inexperienced but the only reason i did it with him is because i was comfortable. This guy sounds like a jerk to use such a lame excuse just to get you in bed. Make him wait a little longer and see how the relationship progresses b4 you do something you might really regret. Time will tell if he really cares for you he will wait until you're ready. 18f, fl
2006-11-08 07:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by selenca 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait. If he can't handle waiting, he's not the guy for you. If he tries to pressure you, just let him go. He's not worth all that. If you do it when you're not ready, you WILL regret it. It's been my experience any guy who's THAT worried about it, will leave you once you've given him what he wants. Most of the time they'll leave you either way. It's better to be dumped because you didn't do it than because you did.
2006-11-08 07:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you should wait. That's the oldest line in the book. It won't make you closer. You've only been dating less than 2 months and he's already putting pressure on you for sex. That should tell you what he's after. You won't feel glad, you will feel used and you will regret it. Tell him to move on to someone else. You can do better than him.
2006-11-08 07:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by kathy p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK so he may be right you two can be the exception but for most couples it isn't
you are still very young and he seems to be shooting smoke up your u know what so he can sleep with you i would wait until you feel ready and you are really comfortable to have sex cus it sounds like you aren't quit ready yet
see i am going to wait till i get married so i know that my man loves me for me and not the sex
but either way good luck and be very careful
2006-11-08 07:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree with gobblegobble. I think you should wait. Sex won't make problems between you guys any better. It just makes them complex, for sex adds strong emotional ties to a relationship. And this can be difficult to deal with if the relationship goes wrong. i advise you to wait, for the only way to be close to someone is to talk to them and find out about the sort of person they are.
2006-11-08 07:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by wolfgirl1987 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yah know Nothing will make you more comfortable than you are.
If you are not feeling it, do not yield to pressure.
Sex does create a bond, but is this what you really want? It can be a bad thing if this bond is created to soon,
and can end in you being hurt waaayy more than you would have had you not slept with him,
Oh and honey, he's not looking for that "closer connection" he's looking to gt laid - trust me.
2006-11-08 07:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is an emotion, sex is a physical activity. Dont get them twisted.
Wait. Having sex doesnt bring you closer it puts you at risk. Im 17 and have a 2 yr old daughter. I love her to death,but i wish i would have waited. The last thing you want to worry about is getting pregnant or getting and std. I used to play softball, and be able to go to school functions, im lucky to have my mom to help me, but i cant do a lot of teenager stuff anymore. Guys will do anything to get in your pants. He may think its may bring you closer but you need to think about the consequences of having sex.
2006-11-08 07:23:29 · answer #11 · answered by *Bella Reveuse* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋