How do you deal with the bad temper of your spouse???

Question

It s driving me crazy.....sometimes he is acting normal, you know easygoing......but almost always is so annoying I just want to kick his a..!!!!!!If you have the same problem tellme what to you do >

Answer 1

sounds like a mental problem, or a massive lack of maturity. look into NPD
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/index.html

Answer 2

Intermittent Explosive Disorder falls in the category of Impulse-Control Disorders. The condition is characterized by failure to resist aggressive impulses, resulting in serious assaults or property destruction. Examples of this behavior include threatening to or actually hurting another person and purposefully breaking or damaging an object of value. The degree of aggressiveness expressed during an episode is grossly out of proportion to any provocation or situational stress. The individual may describe the episodes as "spells" or "attacks" in which the explosive behavior is preceded by a sense of tension or arousal and followed immediately by a sense of relief. Often genuine regret is expressed after the outburst. Later the individual may also feel upset, remorseful or embarrassed about the behavior. Most patients are young men and history will often involve frequent traffic accidents, moving violations and possibly sexual impulsivity. These patients may exhibit extreme sensitivity to alcohol. This disorder is a controversial category because some clinicians believe that it is only a symptom of other diagnoses rather than a disorder on its own.

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Answer 3

Honey, it is not an easy task, some of the men, by nature are little boys who want their own way whenever they feel that we women were created by God to attend to their necesities and I am talking about some of them not all men, because I have two sons who work, attend to the children's needs and even wash and iron their own clothes. I love my daughters-in-law but, I wish my sons had a little cooperation from their wives. My husband and I have been married for 48 yrs. and he still thinks that I have to jump when he calls my name, but, that stopped when I put my foot down and said enough, I am not going to take this anymore. He still tries but it does not work. In your case I would suggest that you have a long talk with him about his attitude and do not get angry because that would not solve anything. Ask him if something is bothering him at work or if he is tired or whatever reason that comes to your mind, because if you both are young you need to try and get along together, to make your marriage work takes more than 50/50. And guess who provides more than 50%, you do.

Answer 4

My husband has a bad temper too, he does not get physical or anything like that but he yells and cusses and calls me everything from dumba** to B*tch or a regular basis, that is until I finally kept dropping hints that he needed help and he went to his doctor for a cold and before he went in I suggested that he ask his doctor about getting him something to calm him down and it blew me away because HE DID! And his doctor prescribed him something called Effexor XL and he and I can now be in the same room together without wanting to tear each other apart! So maybe you could talk with him and make it out to be that you are concerned that he is under way too much stress and that maybe he should ask his doctor about something to calm him down. It worked for me...Good Luck!

Answer 5

I'm going through this right now. Everyday when i come home from school he's in a bad mood and is an *** to me. Sayin his day sucked at work. I just ignore him, stay out of his way, We've been married only a few weeks. If it gets too much, let him know how you much love him, but tell him you wont let him take his anger out on you. I did this and its truly helped. If He gets physical, its not worth it. Leave him. It will be hard. But it will be best, esp if there's kids involved. Hopefully it wont come to that.Good luck and plz let me know how it goes.

Answer 6

You need to let him know this becuz if you dont, it will keep on escalating into something even bigger than. So, just sit him down and let him know that you would feel a whole lot better if he tried to work on his temper.

My bf had a bad temper in the beginning and it was hard for him, but he toned it down a whole lot. Sometimes he does slip back into it, but its not as bad as it was before.

So, just sit him down, put ya foot down and let him know...look i am getting tired of this and if this doesnt change, we are going to have some problems.

Answer 7

Personally I am not the type of female to put up with anything! If his temper is bad, then I tell him to calm down. Period. I will not have him acting like that in front of our child. If he wants to throw a tantrum then he can leave. It is childish and I won't put up with it. Be strong. Stand up for your rights and Never let him hit you. Tell him that you are not gonna deal with this any more and if it continues then you are gone.

Answer 8

I kiss azz, like a fool. He probably needs medication, but I bet he won't go get any help. Well, eventually he might get violent with you, and make living with him suck even more. I'd leave or kick him out. Good luck, we'll both need it.

Answer 9

You ignore a foul temper if you can. All that happens is that you frustrate yourself and then he in turn gets worse. Cap the phrase- Kill him with sweetness!! (Not literally though it might tempt you!!!)

Answer 10

Marriage counseling might help. I don't have the problem, but a friend of mine does. She finally got a divorce.

Answer 11

I just give him a space for several hours until he looks relax and find the thing I can do by my self alone.