how do you get her back if you didn't make her happy?

Question

if you spent almost three months trying to get with someone and when they finally gave you the chance you neglected them and took them for granted. how do you get them to come back becuase now you are ready to be seriouse in show them you can make them happy?

Answer 1

If you find the magic bullet, let me know!
I know one thing..... Do not try so hard that it actually pushes them away. That is what I did and I regret it.

Do not be bitter, whiny, or gullible. Just show her love and the new you when you can.

Answer 2

First, you need to figure out why you behaved the way you did. You may have a more serious issue to address with yourself. I think you are over-simplifying the problem. Until you know the answers as to why you did what you did you will never have a prayer of convincing her to give you another chance.

Answer 3

You need to communicate with her, and ask her for another chance for your relationship. Talk about what you did and see if there can be a win-win situation for both of you. You have to reach an agreement/compromise on the issues/problems that you two are having.

Answer 4

This will be difficult but you have to take a back seat and wait... I'm in the same position, my ex wants me back but I don't want him because I don't have happy memories and I have given him so many chances and he didn't prove anything but he tells me he loves me and wants me back... However my situation is different but I'd advise you to wait and see... If she still loves you she will come back to you, don't persue her, leave her to get on with her life, if you meant anything to her time will definately tell

Answer 5

I think that you may have lost your chance. Why would you endlessly pursue someone and mistreat them when they give in to your advances? I wouldn't give you another chance unless you pleaded and I really liked you and felt that you are worthwhile.

Answer 6

why should dhe come back? ask yourself this, because she is going to ask, you can count on it. you should also ask why you behaved like that in the first place. if she was that great then why did you treat her that way? getting on your knees and begging in a very public fashion would not hurt either. good luck.

Answer 7

you wasted your chance...you can try and persue them, but they will probably be very hard to convince after you screwed them over the first time..it depends on how much they feel for you and if that is strong enough to sway their decision

Answer 8

First of all, if your with someone, think of them, their feelings and needs WAY before your own. Because if you put yourself before your partner, your negelecting your partner and that's why you didn't make her happy.

That's the big problem in our society, society preaches it's all about you, and me, me, me!!

Well wake up and smell the coffee, an attitude like that will only destroy relationships. You need to not think of yourself first, and think of your partner and their needs and feelings before you even think about yourself.

I've changed my whole mentality about that and it's done wonders for my wife and I in our marriage because I put her first instead of thinking about myself all the time.

Answer 9

You had your chance Buddy,and blew it
may the next time you will think of someone besides yourself

Answer 10

Well you can always show them through actions and see if they want to have you in their life if not then you need to move on my friend HUGS