I'm 30 and I am planning to have a baby. My brother has a son (which he doesn't take care of) and mother wants him to have another, yes he can financially take care of both children as can I but he doesn't. I currently have no children but when I bring up planning to have children (planning to go prego in two yrs.) my mom gets quiet or tries to tell me I don't want children. She never wanted children and was just irresponsible and got pregnant in h.s. I have carefully planned my life so that I can have children. She get so jealous and I don't understand why? She never wanted children anyway . . .
2006-11-08 07:05:45 · 24 answers · asked by CollegeDropIN 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have sat down and asked her why she doesn't want me to have children and she says that kids are more than a notion. I know that, it's why I have been waiting and planning. I'm not saying this year, I'm saying two years from now. An how can she condone my bro. having one when he doesn't take care of the one he's got?
2006-11-08 07:19:39 · update #1
your mom is definately jealous of you. she is twisted in wanting your bro. to have and doesn't take care of the one he has. i say she wants you to feel bad for not having kids as she feels bad for having them you feel me she want you to be in her personal hell don't let her put your there. you were made to have children, to be a mother, be fruitful and multiply
2006-11-08 08:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Love United 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the youngest? Your mom may be suffering from "You're my Baby when you have a Baby I'll feel really old" syndrom.
I'm the oldest of three and the only one married/sexually active. I'm sure that when my parents find out that my husband and I have been discussing having a baby, they'll protest. They even told me that a grandchild will make them feel old.
Heck, when I got married, they seemed scared to death that I'de get pregnant (they also delayed us going to our hotel after the reception for as long as humanly possible...) and my dad even expressed to me several times that he didn't want us to have kids for 4 more years. It's been almost 2 years now...;)
Anyway, my point is you don't need your mother's permission to have a baby. It's your life, not hers. :)
2006-11-08 15:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Chels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 30 years old and it doesn't matter if your mom wants you to have children or not. It's not her decision. Stop letting her opinions bother you. If you want children and you are prepared for the responsibilities that come with such, then by all means--do it! Moms are great, but we make our own decisions as adults. Take care and good luck...
2006-11-08 15:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by L80bug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mama seems to be jealous of your careful planning of your life. And if that is the case your mother has some deep rooted issues she needs to tend to, so that she can have a healthy relationship w/her own children, present and future grandchildren.
2006-11-08 15:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it she may be a bit jealous...It may be because you have your life figured out and you weren't hasty with having children until you felt like you were ready and it seems as if she has a problem with that because she wasn't ready but you are. Or she doesn't want you to make the same mistakes that she made but its quite obvious that isn't going to happen. Live your life...Don't live your life for others...Life is too short for that...Good luck
2006-11-08 15:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Black Barbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this is a little harsh but she don't run your life not at 30 anyway so go ahead and have a baby and i wish you luck maybe shes so jealous because she was not such a careful mother and now she probably tryna put you in her shoes and don't get weighed down by that just go ahead with plans accordingly
2006-11-08 15:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Antinitra B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never worry what others think! If you feel you are ready, then go for it. Its the most fufilling experience you will ever have. Everyone deserves to have their own children. I know its hard cause its your mom, but you should take care of yourself and your own future! Best of luck to you in the future! Take care!
2006-11-08 15:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she has some issues that need to be worked out. If you are a responsible adult who feels like your ready for that step and are financially secure than go for it. Don't ever let anyone tell you what is is you want. Best of luck. I'm sure you'll make a great mom!
2006-11-08 15:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by SLEEPY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answed your own question **jealous** its a shame that mother get this way of their children but i seen it happen so much. Its your life, you have a job, your old enough and you are your own person. Try to see what her fears are and work them out. However in the end its your life not anyone else.
2006-11-08 15:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by kittie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may worry that you will feel the same as her? MaYBE SHE WORRIED ABOUT YOU. I've got a daughter and my Mum has pressured me to abort more than once since. However, I don't have financial status or a career so maybe my Mum thinks she is helping. Have kids whenever you want it's your life. they bring so much enjoyment along the way.
2006-11-08 15:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by hornyheluk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋