I have loved this guy for 5 years. We met in high school, and I have always cared for him. 3 months ago we had lunch and he said he would always care for me. But he was staring deep into my eyes and I could not help but to feel in love again. Should I tell him I feel this way, before he gets married or should I just try to move on?
2006-11-08 06:59:37 · 27 answers · asked by Tali07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Woman! he is getting MARRIED I think it's too late for you
2006-11-08 07:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by *~butterfly~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry but try to move on; I know you will obviously find this very hard, but the whole wedding is set up and if he did have any feelings for you he wouldn't be getting married. If you were going to tell him you should have done it before. Try and find someone else and try and think he was just a friend and nothing more . I really feel sorry for you and I understand the pain you must going through .... But only if you are sure he still has feelings for him tell him ! Or tell him I mean what do you have to loose, more then you would already loose if he did get married. Any way think of it that way if it didn't happen it wasn't ment to . But just do what you think is best. I wish good luck. And I will think of you tomorrow.
My true sympathy Ali x
2006-11-08 07:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by La parisienne ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why he was "staring into your eyes" as he talked with you about this, is a pretty good signal that what he was attempting to do is look you straight in the face and make it clear to you that though he would always think of you fondly, as a friend, he had found the woman he has chosen to spend his life with, and that is how it was going to be.
If you genuinely love him as you say, then why would you not want him to be happy? Why would you even think about doing anything to cause him embarrassment, or discomfort? I think that is exactly how you DO discover whether or not a person loves somebody for real. Genuine love is all about the other person, not about yourself. He has found his life partner. Move on, and wait until you find somebody who can feel the same way about YOU.
2006-11-08 07:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need to tell him how you feel. Have you ever thought that he loves you back? Of course not girls always assume the worse that's how we are. If you have loved him for 5 years and haven't told him yet he probably just assumes that you don't care for him like that. He could be trying to replace you, in a way, with someone else. He might not feel for her the way he does you. At the same time if you do decide to tell him don't just assume he will call of his wedding and run into your arms. Not saying it won't happen but it could not. Just remember you will never know and always regret not telling him so you might as well tell him BEFORE his wedding. The best thing would be to tell him some time today before he is at the church and what not!
2006-11-08 07:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Daze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me -- men know what they want waaay more than movies and TV would lead you to believe. If he had the cajones to get together with you and tell you he would always be fond of you he had the cajones to tell you if there was more. If he hasn't said anything or tried to get closer, it's because he doesn't want you. He probably even knows how you feel already, but doesn't want to stir up drama by acknowledging it. Trust me, men are not stupid. They know when they care for someone. They know when they are in love. What do you hope to gain by telling him? His love? It's not going to happen. MOVE ON.
2006-11-08 07:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. Maybe you could send him a letter or email and just let him know how you feel about him. But honestly I wouldn't expect much. If he's getting married he's probably happy. But at least if you tell him you will be able to move forward..with whatever answer you get from him. Just make sure to not be disrespectul of his future wife or his impending marriage.
2006-11-08 07:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It's not fair to wreck his life and the life of the woman he's about to marry just because you maybe feel some love. If you do love him, let him be happy.
2006-11-08 07:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw this totally breaks my heart. It reminds me of My Best Friends Wedding. I say if he is getting married he must love this woman, unless he is unsure about it, then he definitely shouldn't be getting married. But if they both love eachother let it be. I'm so sorry, this is a bad situation for you, but I hope you can be happy knowing that he is happy. God has a special man in mind for you, just be patient, and God bless you! :)
2006-11-08 07:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine some lady trying to ruin your wedding day!! You may not think of it that way, but that is the way the bride will feel. He found someone he wants to marry, leave him alone and move on.
2006-11-08 07:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this... but this isn't the movies. You can try, but more than likely he'll still be getting married. Move on - you may catch up with him later in life - when the timing is right for you!
2006-11-08 07:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by T. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do't say anything either way- he's getting married regardless- what if he doens't love you back? he's obviously getting married!! he's not getting marreid for no reason gurl! jsut move on with your life and you'll find another guy a guarantee it! I know you love him but- think of it this way- he's forbidden to you!
2006-11-08 07:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋