I am i n college and my group consists of 3 boys including me and this girl. I kinda like her and we travel together(she li ves near my house). In college my group tries to go everywhere together.
But i recently got to know from another girl in my class that she had a crush on one of my friends. I could not believe it coz i told her everything abt my past, including my crushes and all but she never ever told me this vital thing, we r in friendship for almost a year. although she said the crush is over and she just considers him as a friend but i m very hurt and unable to trust her now, but i cannot break my group because of this as it is important coz my other two guy friends are nice people. But i m unable to be my own because i m unable to trust her, and now i m insecure about her. wat should i do? believe her and maintain status quo? or break the group and go my way?
2006-11-08 06:16:50 · 10 answers · asked by metallixan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just because you tell someone everything about your past does not mean the other person has to. Allow people their own private space or you will never have friends. I think you are obsessing over this too much. Let it go and enjoy the friendship. She isnt your wife.
2006-11-08 06:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this girl has pretty much reassured you that she's not into your friend anymore. You're expecting too much of her when you guys haven't even dated. Just because you opened up to her about your past doesn't mean that she's automatically yours or that she betrayed you by having a crush on your friend and not telling you. Breaking up the group or the friendships over something as trivial as this is going to be a major loss to you and you'll regret it. If you like this girl so much why haven't you told her or asked her out on a date? If you don't want to go further then don't blame her if she does with her own life whether its your own friend or someone else.
2006-11-08 06:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not real sure what you are upset about....did you have a thing for her?? Or are u just hurt that she didn't tell you?? In any case, most girls are not real forthcoming about having a crush on a buddy. She would probably have been more likely to tell you about it if had just been "someone you know". If you guys are all a "group of friends" she may have been embarrassed to tell anyone in the group, and she may have also worried that it would break up the group. Nothing like a relationship gone sour to split a group of buds up!! In any case, if she was a good friend, talk to her to see why she didn't tell you. I wouldn't feel too offended...feelings are a personal thing...Even if you have told her about your crushes, she isn't required to do the same with you...Good luck!!!
2006-11-08 06:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by help4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, time to bypass on. enable's bypass with what's the main suitable subject on your head. You 2 hook up and characteristic a relationship. then you certainly chop up, because of the fact your 17 and you will. Then what? you need to value friendship over the on the spot purpose of hooking up and attempting issues out. pals outweigh a girl pal any day of the week. until eventually now you initiate with the "she's the single stuff" submit to in recommendations she in all probability isn't. And interior the long one you're greater suitable off with a sturdy pal then a quick lady pal. Take it common, an allure is easy to interrupt yet a friendship could nicely be lost constantly.
2016-10-15 13:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day, If you've never told her nothing else, she probably does'nt know how you feel. Perhaps you could take the soft approach and say that you feel for her more than friends. It could all go wrong but thats the chance you gotta take.
Other than that except what you have and look elsewhere for love.
2006-11-08 06:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are all different. If her 'crush' is over she may not view it as vital as you would. However hard it is you need to accept people for what they are.. If you 'kinda like her' does it matter too much what her past relationships have been?
Live for the now.
2006-11-08 07:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ruin what you have over something another girl said. What if that wasn't the truth? Maybe she got it wrong or maybe she wanted to ruin your friendship?
If it is true, maybe your girl didn't say anything to you because she has a crush on you...?
There could be a million reasons why she didn't tell you, why don't you ask her? It sounds like she like you...
Good luck! :)
2006-11-08 06:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up the friendship because of her, she done nothing wrong, you are not her boyfriend. Just give sometimes and if she does not seem attracted to you, then you should move on, if you are interested to other girl, she may react. If not then she is not for you.
2006-11-08 06:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Triad, a song written by David Crosby (ex Byrds and CSN&Y) sung by Grace Slick (Jefferson Airplane).
2006-11-08 06:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't waste your life thinking that matter. focus on more important things. just live on. time heals.
2006-11-08 06:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shirbol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋