I found out from a friend, but that friend could be wrong. I can't really tell him how I found out because then it will cause fights. HELP!
2006-11-08 06:14:00 · 24 answers · asked by R.F. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
#1, MANY TIMES YOU SHOULDN'T BELIEVE ANYTHING UNLESS YOU SAW IT...#2, WHATS WRONG WITH THE STRIP CLUB? LOOK AT IT THIS WAY, HUMANS WILL BE HUMAN...U SHOULDNT BE MAD CUZ HE'S AT A STRIP CLUB. GOOD GUYS LIE BECUZ THEY'D RATHER NOT HURT YOU WITH THE TRUTH. BUT YA KNOW..EVERYONE'S DIFFERENT...IF IT WAS ME IN THIS SITUATION, I WOULD LET IT GO. I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT THE STRIP CLUB. AND PLUS U CAN'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YA FRIENDS SAY. THEY'RE HATERS!
2006-11-08 06:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo Fa Sho!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be pissed. As his girlfriend you have a right to know what he is doing and why, especially if he is going to a place where other girls are naked. If hes done it before and lied about it numerous times, it probably wont stop him in the future, he will just continue to do it. I would dump him if i were you, or ask him and see if he is honest with you, but if he was honest he would have just told you in the first place. If you found out from a friend, and you trust this friend, then its probably true, what other reason would she have to tell you that for? Just ask him, say someone saw him going in there, or say you drove by and thought u saw him, if he fesses up, try to work on things, try to work things out. If he lies, or denies anything, dump him, hes a liar and you'll have to deal with that the rest of your life wondering what hes lieing about now. Good luck!
2006-11-08 14:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to ask him.."Believe NONE of what you hear and only HALF of what you see" what kind of relationship do you have if you believe his friends? ask him. Maybe he was afraid to tell you. If you let him know, maybe next time he will tell you. BUT you can't get mad when he is being honest with you and he does go.
Men go to strip clubs. It took me awhile to be okay with it, My man will go sometimes with a couple guy friends. As long as its only once in awhile it's okay. He comes home to you and thats all that matters. Looking is harmless. He is with you because he loves you.
2006-11-08 14:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you know this "friend"? Relationships are built on trust! I would bring it to his attention ASAP! Has he given you any reason not to trust him? If he went behind your back, whats to say he wont do it again?! First, find out if he did it. ASK HIM! If your worried about fights between friends, you need to decide which is more important! Friends or Boyfriend, that is the question.
2006-11-08 14:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by ellienix05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not as bad as your imagine may make it. Besides losing a lot of money, you can be assured that is all that happened, since they have video and audio surveillance in them to protect the owner against violations of the law, and local/state/federal laws are very strict about what can and cannot happen inside.
Your BF's attendance at one of these adult nightclubs is nothing compared to the issue between the both of you surrounding how honest you are with one another.
2006-11-08 16:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by been_there_done_that 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Men will always go to strip clubs. They are very visual creatures. He can't touch anyway, it sounds like you don't trust him. If you don't trust him there is more going on than him going to strip clubs. Chill out about it, or strip for him.
2006-11-08 14:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so he went to a strip club behind your back and your worried he will get mad when he finds out who told you ?? Am I missing something here ??
2006-11-08 14:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like dating a guy who goes to strip clubs - find a different guy. He's not going to stop just because you tell him to.
2006-11-08 14:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ease up girly. Guys go to strip clubs. They always will. End of story.
2006-11-08 14:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him to talk about something like this, it's not a good relationship.
If you think he may have gone to a strip club and lied, it's not a good relationship.
If your friends are lying about him and you can't let him know, it's not a good relationship.
2006-11-08 14:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋