My husband and I were living in a larger town with lots to offer and I had a great job. After we had a baby, we moved to a very small town to be near family and I gave up my job. My husband still has his job, but I am very unhappy with my new one. Things aren't working out as well as I'd hoped and I've been thinking about moving back to our old town a lot. My husband doesn't want to think about it since we've already moved here. I'm not sure what to do. How do you know when moving is the right decision? What factors should it be based on?
2006-11-08 06:10:12 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give it at least 6 months to a year. Make some new friends and find another job. Don't give up just yet. Make an honest effort though, don't just "wait it out." If after all that you still are unhappy and want to move back, then talk it over with your husband. Even though larger places have more to do, smaller towns have advantages too. You aren't as invisible, your family can always help with the child(ren), crime rates are usually lower, cost of living is usually less, to mention a few. You already know the advantages of a larger city since you lived there. Hope this helps!
2006-11-08 06:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by Snick S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough spot to be in...
I'd suppose you have to ask yourself just what it is exactly that isn't working out so well, and what you could do to change it?
In a smaller place there are limited opportunities for work, but would another job give you another perspective on your situation?
What is the probability that your husband would be resentful if you insisted on moving back, and what would be the result of that?
Moving is the right decision when it is in the best interest of the family as a whole. A large amount of consideration goes to your baby. I hope you take the time to look at your new situation as one of opportunity, and that you take advantage of it.
Good luck.
2006-11-08 14:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things click and sometimes they dont. It's a matter of where you think you'd LIKE to live. And do some initial checking for things that you feel you need to know.
But it can still be a dissapointment.
Just depends on what you're looking for. What kind of life you lead. Your interests, your ties, friends, etc. Whatever is important to you. One of my favorite sayings is: It's not WHERE you live, but HOW. Usually when folks move, they take their 'baggage' with them. Seeking another job seems easier than moving.
2006-11-08 14:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All decisions and directions must have deadlines. If things did not go better, it's time to change plan, unless God has a promise that you must stay some more - that better thing are yet to come. though in my own human brain, I want to believe that I need to move out and move on. You pray for guidance. when human mind cant, God can.
2006-11-08 14:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Shirbol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont konw if its the best thing until you do it which you've already done what you should do is makw it work for your family for now if you continue to be unhappy talk to husband let him know how unhappy you are if your children are happy with school and friends and the community maybe you can do things to make you happy
2006-11-08 14:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by flyygirlvirgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already weighted in the factors intelligently and have decided but, your husband hasn't. My wife live for almost thirty- years with me, I thinking she like it. When we moved she claimed she was so happy, she said she never did like that place and, she lived there most of her adult life and I never knew about it, she never complained.
2006-11-08 14:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋