Divorce in ISlame??

Question

Salam,
I wanted an advice about my marriage.
I'm a 19 year old guy, and i got married to a 34 year old lady. She was previously divorce and she has 2 childrens, plus she was a christian and she was converted at the time of marriage. But she never learned any prayers nor she believed on the tarika of islam. She was working at that time when we got married, and i told her that i'm not settled yet, so she told me that i will take of things myself and i will earn. I thought that would be ok, she is mature and more experienced she will handle things herself, as for me it might take some time to grow up. But suddenly she left her job after she got preganant, and all the responsibility was thrown on my shoulders, now i dont have enough qualification nor m i earning that much...so i can't pay her house rent and one more thing I never brought her to my house nor my parents or her parents were involved in our marriage. So i cant pay her rent nor m i able to take care of her food and medicines at this time. This is her 6th month. Sometimes I feel she used me...because she changed after getting pregnant, She was alone and she wanted a child, and when she lost interest in my she was changed. Now she is demanding money from me. I dont how to pay that much amount of money every month..I very tensed, She changed after getting pregnant, I feel she is very clever. Well, I need a solution. Please help me out.I'm stuck. Because neither i have any property. This 4 months of marriage has been a hell for me.....I thought something else and things turned out to be really different. now she acts like very cruel woman. She has went out of limits and she also told me that do watever..sell your mom or your brother..but i want money. do you think any respectable or good woman will ever use such a word ? I think she is heartless human being..Who is self centered and doesn't care about my problems at all. Please help me out. EAch day of my life has been like hell.I want divorce.....

Answer 1

so divorce her. You are too young to be married and you should have never married a woman who has kids already and that much older than you when you aren't even able to take care of yourself. You can get your marriage annulled and you should do that. But you will have to take care of your child when the baby is born!

Answer 2

She is 6 mos pregnant and you have been married 4 mos? So she got pregnant to make you marry her? You are 19 and she is 34 how does she expect you to go get a career to support the 5 of you (she has 2 kids already)? Isn't she getting support from her ex for her kids she has? This is a marriage, it should be equal contribution, she should be working with you to make it work (financially and every way). I would find out about financial aid for the area/town/state you live in, they can assist with medical for her, and possibly housing and food. Just do what you can, work and contribute. Sorry you are in this situation. Even if you divorce you will be partially financially responsible for the baby. Talk to a lawyer - contact your local courthouse and inquire about legal aid to assist you with the legalities.

Answer 3

hmm. I don't understand some of the answers. What do they mean "she got pregnant to make you marry her"... HELLOOO... she didn't "get pregnant"... your dick got her pregnant so shut up and deal with the consequences. At 6 months pregnant it becomes pretty hard for some ladies to work so if it's your kid then you need to step up to the plate dude. I know what you want to hear: Mr. Mohamed says that it's ok to screw women and dump them if they get pregnant. Get a life kid.

Answer 4

i am sorry. it sounds like she used you, talk to a good lawyer and see what happens, legal aid is kind of a free place if you don't have much money.