How can I become more hot?

Question

I am sweet as friends tell me. But I guess I'm not hot enough! At least in my character! Hm.. This is me: www.myspace.com/marusia At first guys are so fascinated by me! But then I just like jump on them and they run away... No, surely I don't jump on all guys only on those who I like but that's what is the most sad that they run away and I can't understand why! Maybe you'll notice and tell me please!!! It would really be appreciated a lot ! And also I always want to spend very much time with the one and I think they don't want me if they spend little time so maybe that's another reason why they run away :S! Thank you very much!
Maria :)

Hm.. :) I've put this question in the Philosophy because people here really answer questions. When I asked questions both here and in the relationships place before I always recieved much more answers here!!! :)

Answer 1

Maria - If you were my daughter I would tell you that you are beautiful and I am sure boys find your very sexy. Perhaps its the "jumping" that frightens them away. Guys like to be the "jumpers" (nah, forget equal rights, this is about human attraction). So try a more "cool" personality. Get to know the guy first and give him some time and space to make the "jump".

Oh...and you might try a different category, this is not really a philosophy question.

Answer 2

Oh Maria, you must be kidding, aren't you?

We can't check your hotness by a picture ... This human feature depends on other things, not only on the person's appearance.

Don't try to be "hotter". That's the point. Be yourself and you'll find someone that takes your say of being as "hot", different, interesting and so on.

Ah, before I forgot: this question must be in the relation thread, not in the philosophy one!

Back to the point: try to think of jumping on the guys you are interested is not a good way to start something. It shows things which are not interesting for us (young men).

Unfortuntly I gotta go...

Ie - b r a z i l

Answer 3

Why do you care if guys think your hot or not
your opinion should be the only one that matters.
I know of a couple ( okay more than a couple) of girls who cared so much they had to probe for compliments wjhen around other guys, but when people finally got annoyed and stoped feeding the ego, lets just say the outcome was sad.

Learn to be happy with your self, looks are superficial, don't hold too much stock in that aspect of your life.
Just some advice.
It's not that their running away from your looks,
It's personality, guys like confidance, but when being OVER confident that tends to either scare them or piss them off. Play hard to get, and you'll find the results to be in your favor.

Answer 4

Well first of all, stay your sweet self! But maybe when it comes to guys let them do more of the work...as in wanting to spend time with you, making time for you. Instead of "jumping on the guys you like" try being a little more mysterious about yourself and not just lay it all out for them...that way they want to find out more about you and they'll stick around longer. You have to turn the tables so they are the ones chasing after you and wanting to get to know and spend time with you....Try taking up a fun hobby, the more to you there is, the hotter you are!! :)

Answer 5

When a boy first spends time with you, they feel free...guys are scared off by 'love' and 'relationships' and 'commitments' if they don't think of the idea first. You are following your heart...that is a good thing...you don't want to be slutty about it. You just have to reel them in slowly. Let them figure out for themselves that you are a great girlfriend. Don't talk about the future or the past...just enjoy the good parts. (After all that you might find out that he's not all that great for you and that you want to move on...)
As far as being hotter...I checked your pics and you are a very attractive young girl. Unless you are talking about getting dressed all sexy once in a while to go out to a club with your friends, I think you are just fine the way you are, honey. Don't worry about it.

Answer 6

I for one wouldn't care if a Guy thinks if I'm hot or not. A real MAN would care more of who you are as a person. Beauty is only skin deep and what looks good around their arms. I wouldn't want to be a HOT ornament to a Guy because, that is ALL he will ever see in you. Find a MAN that will accept you (even if your not hot) for who you are as a Woman, Person and an Individual.

Good luck with your quest.

Answer 7

Sounds like you might come on a little strong at first. Guys run at the first sign of neediness, which to them, would be asking to spend alot of time with them in the beginning. Don't worry, you just haven't met the right guy for you yet.

Answer 8

sigh...

you need to do something with your hair
(I can't believe I'm writing this...)
your face is kind of round. The best picture you have is the one after you've jumped in the water, with the wind blowing. Because your hair doesn't frame your face-- with those dreadful bangs.

You need to show more of your body.

And don't submit pictures which look like a deer in the headlights.
Smile more, smile less-- but don't just stare blankly.
In the middle of the photo. Wearing frumpy clothing.

Answer 9

You are a very attractive young woman. You need an on site female mentor to assess the problem and suggest solutions.

Answer 10

Hot girls work at it. It may be a process of trial and error. When what your doing isn't working try asking why. Make changes and try again. Eventually you'll learn to be hot.